He's over there and I am here.

I am so glad that I found this site on Google. I have been asking for so much help and advice from everyone around me including the UK Border Agency but I have not received any help what so ever. I wish someone here might help me and tell me wat I can do. I will tell you my story.

About a year ago I met this guy online (Stickam), we fell in love after a few days and we knew it was true love from that moment on. We have so many things in common and we both have the same interest. We spend practically 14-17 hours each and everyday I know that it is kind of weird and it seems like we have no life but it is because we are in love and we know that we do not need anyone else in our lives. I was suppose to see him July 21st up until august 3rd but my mother took my passport away she is trying to keep me away from being happy with him. Yes, I still live at home with my mother. My boyfriend wants me to move with him and live with him in Scotland problem is I know that it is not really easy to move over there and be with him because I have read it in the UK Border Agency. I do not know how to go about this process and what can I do. We both desire to be together. I do not know what to do can someone please help me, help us?

We both are very depressed at this moment. He is coming to see me in a few months. We are both planning to live together by the way. I do not know what else to say I am really depressed right now and seeking for help :'[

A lot of my friends and family members tell me to look for someone here but we both know that there is no one else in this whole entire planet we rather be with than one another. We are so madly deeply truly in love and it is tearing us both apart we desire to be together.

Please help :'[


1) How can I obtain a Visa? What Visa will I need?

2) How much will it cost for me to obtain a residential visa?

3) How long is the process?

4) Do we have to get married?

5) Will I be able to work?

6) What can I do?

and any other things I should worry about.

How old are you?

That is a LOT of questions, to which there are a lot of answers 

First -- welcome to the forum. You WILL get good advice here, but folks will need more information. Beginning with geeta's question.

Basically, if you're under 21 then you can't move here unless you are a student.  If you are under 21 and genuinely want to be a student then you can look into getting accepted at a UK university and getting a student visa, but you should be aware that this is not easy and that you would need a lot of money up front.

If you are over 21 then you must be married, or at least engaged with plans to marry in the UK before you will be eligible for a visa.  It is an expensive, stressful process.  You would be able to work on a spouse visa, and theoretically you could obtain one in a few weeks. 

To be completely honest, it seems like you are rather young and your relationship is still quite new.  Moving to the UK is a huge commitment and a huge change, I urge you to think very hard about whether you're really ready to take that step. 

I agree with history on this one. See how your relationship develops, meet up sometime either him coming to see you, you going over there, or meet at a vacation destination sometime. If its meant to be then meet again and take your relationship where it needs to go. I know this sounds like "common sense" but the visa process is lengthy, pricey and well... its marriage.

Basically what historyenne and Colleen said--do a couple visits back and forth, get to know each other that way, *then* decide if being over there permanently is something you want to pursue. It can be a lengthy, stressful, and expensive process, and chances are you would need to go down the marriage route, which brings all of the responsibilities and concerns of marriage into play.

I know it's tempting to want to know what your options are up front, because you want to be together, but a lot of things can (and will) change in the next couple of years pertaining to immigration law, fees, etc. It's better to focus on the relationship bit right now, and getting to know each other face-to-face before worrying about all the paperwork and such that you would need. And definitely visit the UK a few times before deciding on anything permanent, just to make sure it's something you could live with, since being married is half of the equation--the other half is seeing if the country is one you can live in, or one you'd be absolutely miserable in.

Also, if you decide to go the fiance/spouse visa route, you will need to prove that your relationship is genuine (i.e. you're not just getting married to get into the country), and a few visits before moving will greatly help that.

Good luck.