I know, I know...but I still can't help it.

I've read all the posts, and I know the best thing is to keep myself busy, to think about the good times, to think about the future...

I think the hours when we'd normally be winding down are the worst. After dinner, after a cuppa, just quietly watching something on tv - something nerdy, most likely - and cuddling warmly. Of course I know he's asleep when the worst of these delightful fantasies enter my mind...but I still want to hear his voice.

Our communication situation is unique...my phone plan won't let me dial outside the States, but I can receive calls just fine. We email and IM whenever possible. He's an incredibly responsible, incredibly busy man, but still finds time to even text me when he can.

I've saved every single thing he's ever sent me.

He has a quote on his MySpace page that I'd heard before I met him, but never quite appreciated until I got him into my life...it works both ways, both being with and being without someone.

"When you sit with a nice girl for two hours, you think it's only a minute. But when you sit on a hot stove for a minute, you think it's two hours. That's relativity."

*sigh*

The only thing I want more than him right now would be a job. And even that only because it might distract me, and will definitely help me get to him faster in the Spring. Hurry up Christmas, already!!!

Thanks for letting me spill it.

How about getting Skype, that way you could call him, too!

Yeah, you need a job--it will keep you busy and you will earn money which you will need!  We are coming up on the busy retail season--are you checking with every shop in your area? (just a thought--don't know what your qualifications / experience are / is.)

Oy. I have my own sad, sad little post about missing my now-husband on here somewhere. Those tough times sucked.

Like you said, definitely stay busy as much as you can. That saying about relativity? I think that "watched pots never boil" applies here. Dwelling only makes the time apart last a reaaally long time.

I wish I had some good advice, but there isn't much to take the edge off. I just wanted to let you know that I read your post, and I know where you're coming from. It can be miserable - but it's worth all the good times in the end! 

Get an international calling card (my parents have an AT&T one that is rechargeable). You dial an 800 number, then once connected, you enter in the UK details. This would allow you to call him anytime. It sucks when you're waiting for him to call you.

Awww, I know just how that feels. Why not get a seasonal part-time job at a retail shop? You would earn some money and keep those evening hours busy. Definitely agree about Skype or getting some sort of international call plan, that should help you keep in touch better. Don't worry, it does seem to take an eternity, but once you are together for good, it's all worthwhile! 

I agree with the other ladies suggestions here; I don't have much to offer.  But I do know where you're coming from and it is horrible to be away from the man you love.  Just keep your eye on the prize and know that you will be together soon.  And in the end, this time apart will make you THAT much stronger!!

You guys are really the best. *grins and hugs to y'all*

I'd do Skype, but it requires a faster connection speed than I've got. (Using a Blackberry as a modem, crappy sitch but all I got right now...) I never quite know what he's up to, so I don't want to just up and call him if he's busy...and he doesn't mind calling me whenever I like, if I just text him to let him know I want him. lol (I'm very good about not abusing the privilage.  )

I have been looking for work, but my city has the second highest unemployment rate in Illinois, and it's looking like flipping burgers at Mickey D's. I really don't care, though; I'd serve my own buttcheek on a bun if it meant I could get back to him any sooner. He might be a bit upset at that, though....

Thanks again for the support...it's really a good feeling knowing there's a whole community of us, in varying stages of the process, and we're all so willing to support one another. I know you guys know where I'm coming from!   

im with u, i just posted earlier today. im sitting next to my gf right now in london, trying to enjoy the last few hours..go to bed wake up with her dropping me off in the morning at airport Soooo not looking forward to this one bit, such a stomach droppin feeling. If you need anyone to message feel free to send me a message, ill be in your same spot come tomorro. best of luck, guess we just got to try to remain strong, and look forward, easier said then done.

I'd like to take this moment to plug onesuite.com for cheap international calls. It saved my life. I think it was 2 cents a minute to a landline ? No connection fee. They give you a local number to call, which I just saved into my phone. You call that number and then just dial the number you're calling. You just top up online. I talked to now-hubs for at least an hour most days and $20 would last me close to 2 weeks most of the time. I know everyone's situations and schedules are different, but it makes things a lot easier if you can give him a quick call whenever you want just to say hi. I remember getting so jealous of being with friends and them calling their SOs just to say "hey,do we need milk?"

I strongly suggest Skype.

Or if that won't work- get Penny Talk.  You can sign up for an account online.  It's 2 cents a minute to call a UK Land line.  (49 cent connection fee).  You can put as little as $10 on the card.  (However, don't use Penny Talk to call a mobile- 25 cents a minute then.)

DF and I use Skype with a web cam.  Being able to see the other person's facial expressions when you are talking helps to avoid misunderstandings due to differences in communication styles, humour and vocabulary.  I needed more memory on my computer before I could download Skype.  If you choose to use Skype, you many want to check the memory capacity on your computer before you download. 

When we get to chat online, I turn my cam on for him, even though he doesn't have one of his own for me to peep him out. lol It's not a memory issue for me; I have plenty of space on my drive...it's the fact that the fastest connection I can get is in the neighborhood of 115Kbps, about twice as fast as a dialup. When I test called Skype, it was all choppy and interrupted, so it's really a no go until/unless I can catch a wifi signal somewhere...it's honestly not worth the trouble.

Neither he nor I have a landline, either, so it's always mobile-to-mobile. He's not home enough to necessitate the extra cost, and I just don't need one. He's got hours of credit on his pay-as-you-go he set up just to speak to me. It's not a matter of cost so much as it is finding the time to make the connection.

Thank you all for your tips and support...it seems like I can deal with the distance, since I know we'll be seeing each other again in about two months-ish...but the time difference is the biggest thorn in my side. What's to be done for it? lol I know, "someday we'll look back at this and laugh..." right? lol Please, someone tell me we'll be laughing? 

Little Flower Girl,

Firstly let me tell you for certain you are not alone. My fiance and I have been in this LDR senario for 3 years now. And although it has made us an incredibly strong couple and our bond is unbreakable. Due to us using up most of our holidays during this year hoping back and forth we aren't going to see each other until 19-Dec and we would have spent 6 months apart...now that we are nearing the less than 2 months mark we are really feeling the longing big time. We speak on the phone at least three times a day and email from work all day long. The consistant and constant communication is what helps us both. Even when he is out with friends he will call and it feels like we are out together and I get to speak to our friends which is nice.

Now you must be wondering HOW in the HECK do you talk for so long, it must cost a FORTUNE...well this is why I wanted to write to you! We pay ZERO long distance for our calls. If you both have a cell phone which I assume you do. We use a system called Talkster. www.talkster.com. Go to this site and enter in your phone number and his number. It will assign you both a local number to call that will then connect your call. Its sounds too good to be true but its real and it has been our saving grace. The only cost is your cell phone plan minutes which we both pay for unlimited for obvious reasons (we log about 6,000 mins a month) We also have a back up because nothing is 100% foolproof, with technology as we know, there are glitches. Try www.rebtel.com for an alternate choice.

Hope you can hold on a bit longer. When you find the one you know you are meant to be with, all this waiting and distance is just a very small price to pay.

Take care,

CMG
x

CMG-

Thank you for the tips and encouragement!! Both of those sites look phenomenal! I'm definitely going to mention it to him the next time we get to chat. I wish we had the time to chat as often as you do...lol but when we do get to speak, we'll give these a try and see how they work! I have T-Mobile, so if it works, I'll just make his Talkster number a favorite, and then I won't even have to spend minutes, because it'll be completely free for me.

Now, to just get him tied down long enough to use the phone....

-LFG

gonna chime in again! Does this talkster stuff really work? No strings attached mobile to mobile free!? Are you serious!?

As i mentioned the last few days, i jsut got back from from my gf and UK yesterday and today has been an all time low for me. just want these next few days to pass by or even week cause i know it will be a little bit better. Lately we been seeing each other every 2 months for past 3 visits. We do talk a lot. When im at work we email, when home phone or skype. I bought a calling card months ago i top up for 2cents per min landlines, helps but still expensive. We do talk a lot it is great, but sometimes i find it even harder at moments, can make me miss her more sometimes.

We been doing 2 months inbetween visits as i mentioned(hope we can keep it around that) and the last month(weeks) has been hardest, the longing thing. Busy is the best thing and thats what i keep telling myself since i just left her. Night time while she already asleep can be lonely.

Good news though im on east coast and i believe they change the clocks back tomorrow so she will be 4 hours ahead now instead of 5! yay! Anxiety is killin me today, back to work in few hours, first time in weeks! You are not alone by far.