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depressed over son
« on: July 27, 2004, 10:10:44 PM »
My son who lives in Washington State came to visit after a year(he's in the army 10 years now)Was also in the was recently.Every time he visits which is once a year it's great.I'am usually fine when he leaves.This time I can't stop crying and I'am very depressed.It's only been two days but I've gone through this before when my daughter went away to college.For some reason it's happening again.I'am on a small amount of buspar from the last time I was depressed.Anyone that can give me any advise to get myself out of ths.PS MY son is very happy with his life and is doing well.What up with me.I have a good life good husband and daughter near by and I'am sad.Thanks Bella


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Re: depressed over son
« Reply #1 on: July 28, 2004, 09:27:43 AM »
it sounds like you could use a few good hugs...  and possibly an activity to keep you busy...  a hobby, sport or organization to join...something you enjoy doing...  you know your family loves you...  you miss having your son around and that is normal...  you spent many years raising your children and now they are living a life away from you...  the empty nest syndrom it sounds like...  which is why it is important to fulfill yourself with things that make you happy on your own...

good luck...  and big hugs
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Re: depressed over son
« Reply #2 on: September 21, 2004, 06:18:02 PM »
Hey Bella,

I don't have much wisdom, and I am responding to your post which is now nearly 2 months old, but thought I would let you know you are most definitely not alone in feeling like this.

My brother and I went to boarding school in England, but our parents live abroad-- in 2 different countries-- and we still always cry when we say goodbye!

It seems that the goodbye part doesn't get any easier and the heart strings tug as much as they did 15 years ago, but perhaps we are all better at staying in touch?

The week after a nice time together is a time to keep busy. Also a good excuse to treat yourself to a manicure, or a new sweater or something!

It's been a lot easier for my fiance's parents to cope with him living in London (they are in California) when they know when they will be seeing him next.

You don't say where you live, but is it possible for you to perhaps visit your son more often? You only mention that he visits you. February, May and November are the cheapest months of the year to fly, and if you book up far enough in advance you can get some fantastic deals! Here's a tip: not suggesting that this is necessarily the only airline, but when it comes to comparing the cheapest days and times to fly, British Airways' website has a comparison chart. Anyway, it gives you a good idea of what the cheapest flights will be across all airlines.

I hope by now (September) you are less depressed, and that you feel less alone.

Here's a big virtual hug!

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Flaurena


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