Supposed to move over in Sept...not sure if that will happen...

Im feeling so helpless.  Im not sure what is the next step?

So the plan has been for me to move over to Manchester in September.    We have been apart 7 months with two 5-day visits.  My guy is unemployed and is looking for a job in Manchester, so that he can get us an apartment (he lives with his mom).  Once he gets a place and is working I was going to move over and start my job search.  I have actually been applying for jobs right now, but its unlikely I will get a job from the US. 

So we are stuck in this limbo, and Im not sure if I will get to move over in September since my guy doesnt have a job...and we have no place.  I cant live with his mom as there isnt enough room.  Im getting really down.  I have sold all my stuff and I am so ready for this move.  I love it there, and I am getting sick of not being with my fiance.  I dont have to wait on a visa since Im a British citizen, so I could in theory just come over. 

I have found myself obsessed with getting over and have been getting down so of course we get irritated on the phone and skype with each other.  I feel like he isnt trying hard enough to get a job, he seems really picky.  You would think he would do anything to get me over...take any job that could afford something...or look harder.  He is probably looking im just frustrated. 

He cant come over to the states because I dont make enough to sponsor him...

Im getting discouraged.  I adore him and only want him.  He started seeming like it was my fault and I should get the job and figure out a way over.

I need support and advice.   

The job market here is not great at the moment, so it could very well be that he is trying hard and is still coming up empty. I don't know what else to say except that you may have to be a bit more patient than you'd anticipated. 

Can you look for a job? Let people know you're in the US atm but will be returning to the UK soon? If you're both looking then that's twice the chances of finding a job, right? You both sound very discouraged and I hope your prospects brighten soon :o)

I have been applying for jobs like mad over here.  I imagine the chances of me getting a job while im in the usa is slim seeing as they will want an interview.  But I gotta try right?

What if you live in a shared house until you get a job, then the two of you can get your own place?

I have considered a house share, but the prices are about as much as a tiny apartment in the areas I am researching. 

I guess we will just have to wait till my fiance gets a job, and then Ill move over.

I am wishing this life I want so bad will start soon...

I have considered a house share, but the prices are about as much as a tiny apartment in the areas I am researching. 

I guess we will just have to wait till my fiance gets a job, and then Ill move over.

I am wishing this life I want so bad will start soon...

Can you not get a job in the US and save some money up? Then you can move over and have a couple of months money to tide you over.

Also, are you sure flat shares are not cheaper? I've seen some seriously cheap flat shares on spareroom.co.uk

Can you not get a job in the US and save some money up? Then you can move over and have a couple of months money to tide you over.

Also, are you sure flat shares are not cheaper? I've seen some seriously cheap flat shares on spareroom.co.uk

yes, especially in Manchester! Are you looking close to the city centre? If you're willing, I'm sure it gets much, much cheaper if you look in Fallowfield/Didsbury, and they  have professional flat shares (so no students). With the transport as good as it is, it's super easy to get into the city centre if you need to for work or something.

I think you should post your cv on monster.uk, reeds, and other job posting websites and see how marketable you are there.  You never know what might come along.

I've been applying just to see as I'm not due to go over until October but I've had some hits and offers for interviews so it makes me feel better.  I can't go over before that as I need to save money to ship my things, buy out my leased car and have money to live off of for a few months while looking for a job BUT it doesn't hurt to be proactive and get the ball rolling.  You never know.

I have posted my resume on monster etc...I am still applying.  I will have to look for house shares near manchester city centre.  Maybe I am not looking accurately.

Im hoping something works out.

I have posted my resume on monster etc...I am still applying.  I will have to look for house shares near manchester city centre.  Maybe I am not looking accurately.

Im hoping something works out.

Type in Didsbury, Victoria Park, Fallowfield etc.  They may have better rates for you. Anything in the city centre is going to be expensive! I regularly see "professional only" roomshares posted in our local Tesco's, so I know they're out there!

Keep your chin up! I know how hard it is to wait I'm waiting for my husband to get a job in Devon before we can start the visa process. He's been trying his hardest, but it seems that the job market is still a bit iffy.  I hope he gets one soon so we can get the ball rolling. Waiting is not for the faint hearted!  I've been doing some odd jobs and applying for fulltime work while I'm here, it keeps my mind off it and some money rolling in

It is tough in Manchester right now. I've been here nearly four months, have had a few interviews, but no nibbles. I'm a European citizen, so theoretically there's no barrier to hiring me, but it is still difficult right now.

Try Chorlton, as well, with places to live. Easy to get to the city centre, and reasonable rents.

Good luck!

It is tough in Manchester right now. I've been here nearly four months, have had a few interviews, but no nibbles. I'm a European citizen, so theoretically there's no barrier to hiring me, but it is still difficult right now.

Try Chorlton, as well, with places to live. Easy to get to the city centre, and reasonable rents.

Good luck!

I have seen a ton of flat shares in Chorlton, try spareroom.com. You can't go wrong with Chorlton, its got everything (can you tell I live here) and its a really easy place to meet people. And there are new Tram stations opening, which is going to make getting into the city centre super easy. Really super easy.

I know this might not be of a lot of help right now as you want a job ASAP but the BBC is moving to Manchester throughout next year and are taking cv's at the moment. Since you have the legal right to work in the UK (I guess I read somewhere else you have dual citizenship), it wouldn't hurt to apply from the US as the process is quite long and interviews won't start till the end of the year or next one.

Good luck!