Passport control at Heathrow Airport

Need to vent. Went through Heathrow a couple weeks ago with zero problems. BF and I just returned from a long weekend in Spain via East Midlands.  I got GRILLED. EMA must not see much action on the foreigner front. I have to admit I do throw up alarms...visiting for 4 months, unemployed, yada yada. Fortunately I had my bank statement and return itinerary to US...oh and the BF She approved me to stay in the country until my flight in August.

There were a couple curious questions that made me believe she was a rookie I.O., and frankly frustrated me:
IO: how long have you known each other?
me: 1.5 years
IO: You have been to the UK many times in the last year.
me in my mind: "Yes...that's how relationships work"
me in reality: Yes, to visit him

IO: after you go to the US in August are you going to come back to the UK? (she was basically wanting me to say "im never coming back")
me in my mind: "Theoretically yes, if I ever want to see my bf again"
me in reality: I will come back next time with a visa as I'm starting the process when I return home.

I behaved myself. I just think I got a power tripper.

Moral of this post: ensure you have your documentation, think twice if you're contemplating leaving the country and returning without a visa, practice your yoga breathing in advance to calm yourself down!

I'm really sorry but all of those seem like really reasonable questions if you're trying to determine the intent of someone who's making multiple visits to the UK. They have a job to do and all of those questions seem like they're related to that job. Like you say, you throw up loads of flags

In my experience, no IOs anywhere are as rude as the ones at JFK. Although saying that, last time I flew to JFK (3 weeks ago) the IO asked me exactly zero questions, despite obviously kissing my boy before splitting up into separate queues and having about 30 entrance stamps to the US. I was expecting a grilling and had payslips, my credit card statement showing funds available etc on me but he merely glared at me, got me to stick my fingers on the thing and stamped me in.

I agree with CB, those are very reasonable questions and wouldn't consider it grilling.

I agree with both of you. Part of it was s rant, part was frustration with myself for feeling so disorganized when it happened. It's just so dang nerve wracking!