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Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« on: November 18, 2010, 03:10:25 AM »
Some areas of the wedding I'm happy to spend what it takes to get what we want. Other areas I'm happy to cut costs as much as possible. The latter is true for invitations. I've never seen the point in spending tons of money on fancy paper, and now with the internet I see even less point. I think there are maybe 3 people we're thinking of inviting who aren't online, and one of them is DF's aunt who is easy to keep in the loop, while the other 2 are elderly across-the-Atlantic relatives who I don't expect to come anyway. So my idea is to have postcards made to use as invitations, and I've found a website where I can get 100 for under £10. I have three thoughts for pictures to use: 1) The Palais Des Ducs, where we got engaged (and there is a great panoramic photo that is Creative Commons licensed that we can use); 2) the venue we end up choosing; or 3) a photo of us from the engagement shoot we are going to have with our photographer. Then on the back we'd have stickers printed with our names, the venue, the date and time and the wedding website, leaving space on the usual address side to handwrite the address.

The main problem, obviously, is that this doesn't leave space for an RSVP card or even really allow for us to put our address and phone number on (though this info would obviously be on the website). This is good in that it saves us money on postage, envelopes and extra cards, but it would limit people to answering exclusively online. How do people feel about this? If you got just a postcard as an invitation, would you feel annoyed or that it was really tacky? Is it unfair to expect people to just RSVP online? (I should note, anyone I invite who is less than web savvy is able to let my mum know anyway) What else would you suggest for saving money? If you do like it, which picture do you think we should use out of the above ideas (or suggest a new one if you think of something better)? Thanks!
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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #1 on: November 18, 2010, 03:31:16 AM »
I have seen invitations that were set up with a tear-off section for the RSVP.  However, they weren't particularly cheap. 

I agonized over the whole invitation thing, and eventually just ended up with fairly traditional, professionally-printed invitations.  At the end of the day, they were cheaper than all the supplies I'd have needed to make my own, and I decided I'd go nuts if I had to try to do it myself.  So, my advice is, whatever you do, try to be realistic about how much it'll cost to do-it-yourself vs. making it someone else's problem.

I do like your idea, though. It could be very cool.  And as far as the reply cards, if you think most people will be able to go online, or will just contact your mom, then I wouldn't worry about it.  I think I only got about half of ours back anyhow; people just showed up!

One final piece of advice: Have someone who has no idea what's happening proof-read your text.  I didn't mention a dinner time on mine, since I just thought everyone would take dinner as given, and would just show up at or around the starting time listed.  But apparently a lot of people were confused.


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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #2 on: November 18, 2010, 12:15:30 PM »
Honestly I am with you - save the money if you don't feel you want/need it.
We had beautiful invitations that I sent to people but I already knew who was coming or I sent to family I knew couldn't make it but would want a memento.

I believe squirrele poo had online as well...You could have a number and an email to RSVP - saves everyone time and you money.

Once again it's your gig and do as you want - forget tradition ;-)


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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #3 on: November 18, 2010, 12:59:34 PM »
The whole RSVP thing passed me by, I can't remember ever receiving a wedding invitation that included an RSVP card until just this year, so I thinks it's perfectly acceptable to ask for RSVP by email and if that's not possible then you're guests can buy one of those pre printed RSVP cards at any supermarket/newsagent.

The postcard idea is great! 


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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #4 on: November 18, 2010, 01:20:15 PM »
I just got an invitation last week to our Vicar's daughter's wedding.  I am pretty sure they designed and printed the invites themselves and the RSVP was an email/on line response.  I didn't think a thing about the invites themselves until now!  What I remember about getting the invite was how happy I was for them all.

So, as far as I can see, you do what works for you.  Anyone who thinks unkindly of it, well, I think their priorities are a bit out of whack.
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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #5 on: November 18, 2010, 01:44:52 PM »
I really like the idea.  I think that would be cool.  But, I think you might want to have at least a phone number to call or something for the few people who don't do online.  Maybe you can have a US number like if parents in the US are okay with keeping track of US calls, and you can do UK ones.  I also like the rip off a portion idea to send back as RSVP, but the problem I had with that was because ours were different from invites our US friends usually saw, they wanted to hold onto the whole invite.  I kept being asked if they could just tell us (in retrospect I should have used an online site to record attendance, but again we had grandparents who didn't do the whole online thing).  Either way, good luck figuring it all out!!


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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #6 on: November 18, 2010, 03:00:05 PM »
I had a lovely, simple, single fold invitation designed by UKY's own Marlespo! I loved them and we had loads of compliments on them. She's great to work with and will do whatever you want! I'm a cheapskate who didn't want to pay for RSVP cards, so I just asked people to RSVP to my email address. People who didn't email told my mom if they were coming and of course I had to chase some people up, but that's standard. It worked out great and no one seemed to care!

These were our invitations. http://www.etsy.com/transaction/11543956

She also made matching place cards for the tables, table numbers, and thank you cards.


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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #7 on: November 18, 2010, 03:34:12 PM »
ha! What you're proposing is EXACTLY what we did.

We got postcards printed up through Moo.com, with our image on the front, date & venue on the back, and an RSVP url to our wedding website. On the website there was (still is if you want to peep at it - PM me) a big link that went to a form to fill in. The results of the form went into a big Google docs spreadsheet (Google have great tutorials for this but it was honestly SO easy to set up) that I, my fiance, and my mom could all look at.

We only had one person out of our entire 80+ person UK wedding and 60+ person US reception that couldn't fill out the online RSVP so she had her daughter do it for her. Absolutely fine.

And having all the info on your website means you're not restricted to wordcounts, and if plans change or you've got updates (like roadworks, train engineering works, etc) you can add onto it later, too. I'd totally recommend doing it this way!

Edit: oh I should clarify that we posted our postcards in envelopes so we could have more room for writing stuff
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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #8 on: November 18, 2010, 03:49:08 PM »
Some areas of the wedding I'm happy to spend what it takes to get what we want. Other areas I'm happy to cut costs as much as possible. The latter is true for invitations. I've never seen the point in spending tons of money on fancy paper, and now with the internet I see even less point. I think there are maybe 3 people we're thinking of inviting who aren't online, and one of them is DF's aunt who is easy to keep in the loop, while the other 2 are elderly across-the-Atlantic relatives who I don't expect to come anyway. So my idea is to have postcards made to use as invitations, and I've found a website where I can get 100 for under £10. I have three thoughts for pictures to use: 1) The Palais Des Ducs, where we got engaged (and there is a great panoramic photo that is Creative Commons licensed that we can use); 2) the venue we end up choosing; or 3) a photo of us from the engagement shoot we are going to have with our photographer. Then on the back we'd have stickers printed with our names, the venue, the date and time and the wedding website, leaving space on the usual address side to handwrite the address.

The main problem, obviously, is that this doesn't leave space for an RSVP card or even really allow for us to put our address and phone number on (though this info would obviously be on the website). This is good in that it saves us money on postage, envelopes and extra cards, but it would limit people to answering exclusively online. How do people feel about this? If you got just a postcard as an invitation, would you feel annoyed or that it was really tacky? Is it unfair to expect people to just RSVP online? (I should note, anyone I invite who is less than web savvy is able to let my mum know anyway) What else would you suggest for saving money? If you do like it, which picture do you think we should use out of the above ideas (or suggest a new one if you think of something better)? Thanks!


You can design a tear off as part of your postcard if you wish, but something I was considering doing as going to do a whole self printed  invitation set. I work with artists and designers every day so am used to getting things printed in big runs. It makes a huge difference, it's the difference between getting your photos printed at boots by a huge machine or in a darkroom by someone with a real eye, moo.com are excellent.

I was considering -
Postcard for the main invitation, but printed on both sides, so not a traditional postcard.
Business card as the RSVP if you need them, but a website will do just as well.
Stickers printed for envelope seals.

And putting everything in an envelope, so you get the cheapness of a printed postcard but it's slightly more formal.

Keep Print quality in mind. The print quality of something that costs £10 for a 100 is likely to be pretty poor, I can't say for certain, but you need to consider card and print quality, as well as finish, matte, glossy etc. For  100 a reasonable figure would be more like £30-£50

I really quickly mocked up the design I was thinking about (10 minutes - on the real one I was going to use my own photographs as ours is a vintagey, london ceremony set in a WW2 museum) and I've used an actual post card template (yes they need to be that big!) so you can see how careful you need to be about aliasing so text etc is vectorised and the photographs are of a high resolution and size so when they're printed you don't get just blurry smudges, things that look fine on your computer can look awful when printed.

I think it's a great idea and love the postcard look :) I like the whole invitation thing, they set the tone a bit so we ended up going with something much more kitsch as that's our wedding, stupid, kitsch, immature and fun.



- http://img831.imageshack.us/img831/4963/invitesblackwhite.jpg


xposted with squirrellypoo, yay for moo.com they're AWESOME!



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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #9 on: November 18, 2010, 03:55:27 PM »
- http://img831.imageshack.us/img831/4963/invitesblackwhite.jpg


xposted with squirrellypoo, yay for moo.com they're AWESOME!


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« Reply #10 on: November 18, 2010, 04:34:01 PM »
Mary - I LOVE IT!!!!

Really? I like them but wasn't sure if they were a bit "dark" I quite like that though :) I want to use all my own photography as well :) I have some vintage polaroid film that expired last year that I might try to  incorporate as well.
 
I might have to go back to these anyway now the redundancy hammer is above my head and I probably shouldn't be wasting money on moustaches, buttons and fancy invitations :)



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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #11 on: November 19, 2010, 02:13:41 AM »
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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #13 on: November 19, 2010, 08:25:52 AM »
I have used vista print before for cheap business cards - they were filmsy and cheap and you could tell.
Will they give you a sample so you can see if maybe the UK site is better?


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Re: Invitation thoughts, advice welcome!
« Reply #14 on: November 19, 2010, 09:33:13 AM »
I have used Vista Print the last couple of years to make photo calendars for my family for Christmas presents.  I have have been really happy with the results, and I am going make the calendars again this year, and get my Christmas cards, as well.

As Chilly Willy mentioned, it is a good idea to get some samples, just to be sure.
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