Mummy versus Mommy

Hubby and I have been discussing what I should be called. I think Mommy cause that's what I am, but he says Mum.

So what do you go by?

Mod: I can't edit my poll... can you add Mom as an option? Thank you!
ETA: rest of post. 

Unfortunately, I think the kid decides what you are called in the end. I tried hard to be Mommy in the beginning, but being around other people who will always refer to you as Mummy, is more of an influence that my calling myself Mommy. So its Mummy for me (with a nice Manc accent, so its really Mummeh) I wouldn't want to be called anything else! 

I'm raising a US born kiddo who is developing his language skills over here.

I've tried to encourage mommy or mummy or mom or mum, but my son still just insists on...MAMA. So I'll just let it be. He's not quite 3, so it'll probably change.

There are a couple other threads on here about this. I'm always slightly the odd one out in that I believe children should address you as you want to be addressed. I've known many a hispanic or asian family (living in the US or UK) where the mother is called Ma-ma, or mami, or whatever and while the child may have slipped into the local custom in early years, eventually the parent's preferred choice prevailed.

We left the UK before it really became an issue for me and my boys, but I would have stuck with Mommy as how I referred to myself and encouraged it with my boys.

I do admit that I can't stand 'mummy'. I lived there for 8 years and heard it probably every day and it never ceased to conjure up images of Halloween or horror flicks in my mind!

I agree with balmerhon...it's your call. My husband calls his mother and father by the proper terms in his Indian language and although he also refers to them as "my mom" and "my dad", when he's talking to them or to his siblings, he always calls them their preferred forms of address.

pengi, if I were you, I'd tell my husband that I was the one who carried and delivered the baby, so I get to choose what baby calls me!

I agree with Geeta and Balmerhon.. I think  you  deserve to be called  what you want to be called...  As  a side note  (we are Italian..My side )  and  my very  American patriotic BIL  didn't like that his kids  call my parents Nonno and Nonna  ..but  they want to be called that.. Grandma/pa  was never comfortable  for my parents  so  my BIL  had  to cease.. same with me being called  Zia  (aunt)  ..

My LO is  4 now  and  she calls me  mamma  or mom  now..(we live in the US  but  I would have  insisted  although in Birmingham, UK   it is  probabaly the only place  where you DO hear  MOM  )

Here's the thread (and 67 responses) from the last time this came up: http://talk.uk-yankee.com/index.php?topic=49078.0

I am Mom, Mommom and Mommy...Mum & Mummy aren't used in our home.

My daughter called my Mommy while we lived in the US (5 years) but now she calls me Mummy (1 year after living in the UK).  I don't think she makes a conscious effort to say 'Mummy' now as opposed to 'Mommy' it's just that her accent has completely changed and that's what it sounds like now when she says 'Mommy' (actually comes out as Mum-meh).  DH calls his 'Mam'.

I think it's up to the kids.  When my daughter was born, we called my mom and dad 'Grandma' and 'Grandpa' and once she started speaking, she came up with 'Nanny' and 'Paw Paw'...which is quite strange considering that we don't call anyone that...or even use those words at all....so she completely came up with the term on her own.  Even though those are the terms we've stuck with for my parents, my nephew (at 2.5yrs) now calls them 'Nanny' and 'Papa'.  For our family at least, there was no making the kids refer to you the way you want to be addressed.

My oldest will only call me Mom due to her age when we moved here to the UK, although she'll refer to me as her mum when speaking with friends. My youngest uses both Mum and Mom but always refers to me as his mum when speaking to friends. At first it bothered me but now I don't mind. However, the Husband has always referred me as Mummy and Mum when speaking to the kids which never rubbed off on them while we were living in the states. Mum, Mom. I don't care. As long as they don't call me "Oi, you!" or worse!

I refer to myself as Mommy. My 5-year-old English-born child calls me Mummy and Moooooom when she's calling me or irritated with me.

Like Balmerhon, I don't like "Mummy" either. But I work too hard on getting my child to say yes instead of yeah and anything instead of anyfin. Often times Mummy takes a back burner to the other vocal anomalies!

Never an issue for me. I grew up in New England where it's "mummy" (or at least it was in my day)

I think that if a parent or grandparent wants to be adressed a certain way we should respect that.  Of course using an uncommon name (ie Mom here in the UK) makes it a right pain to find greeting cards!  Why the hell did my Mom decide she wanted Jean to call her Grammy???!?? I cheat now by buying cards that say "from your granddaughter" but that won't be any good after sproglet arrives!  Have to go with moonpig or something I guess.

I personally prefer to be called Mummy 

I think that if a parent or grandparent wants to be adressed a certain way we should respect that.  Of course using an uncommon name (ie Mom here in the UK) makes it a right pain to find greeting cards!  Why the hell did my Mom decide she wanted Jean to call her Grammy???!?? I cheat now by buying cards that say "from your granddaughter" but that won't be any good after sproglet arrives!  Have to go with moonpig or something I guess.

My sister and I grew up calling our grandmothers "Bubby" which is Yiddish for grandmother.  My mom (and then my sister and I when we got older) just got a normal "Grandma" card and crossed of "Grandma" and wrote "Bubby".  Same for Grandfather--crossed it out and wrote "Zada" (Yiddish again) and for the other grandfather "Pop-Pop".

My Dad's mother never wanted to be called "Bubby" because it sounded old and old-fashioned to her.  She wanted my sister and me to call her "Mom-Mom" but we never did.  "Bubby" was just more loveable sounding, I think.  However until the day she died she always signed her cards to us Love, Mom-Mom.

I used to be 'mama' and that was before the kids started school and then it changed and my 8 yr old son calls me ''mom'' and my 6 yr old daughter calls me ''mummy.'' I don't mind either and I still call my own mother ''mama''

I refer to myself as mommy. Whether the girls will call me that when they're older is up in the air but I think I'll probably press them for mom or mommy.

My parents insist on being called nana and papa. It's hard to remember because I grew up calling grandparents 'grandma' and 'grandpa' (even our great grandparents) but I kind of like that they insisted on different names because it sets them apart from Jon's parents. Plus, my parents are still in their 40's. They're too young to be called grandma and grandpa.