Inconvenient Annoyances

I'm sure I'm not alone in thinking Christmas should be about the whole family being together and appreciating everybody... I mean, the newlywed BIL's wedding day was "about them".  They had their spotlight.  Christmas is for the family.  Your MIL sounds ... well... dreadful.  I'm glad you get to go home to your own family and not be subjected to her this holiday season (sorry your husband can't go with you... ).

You are not alone! I think that's probably what most (normal) people think! And thank you; it'll be great to spend to my family. They've been so sweet towards my husband and are quite sad he won't be able to come over. They really make an effort to include him literally everything my family does, from holidays to FaceTiming family dinners where he's missed (they prefer him to me, think, ha!).

My wife and I originally met on the Internet. Quite honestly, anybody that doesn’t like it can suck an egg! We need each other more than we need anyone else, and sure don’t need their approval.

My wife and I originally met on the Internet. Quite honestly, anybody that doesn’t like it can suck an egg! We need each other more than we need anyone else, and sure don’t need their approval.

Definitely how I feel about it! So many people find their friends and partners online now, I have no judgement. I got to know mine over the Internet after a brief in person meeting. Our relationship wouldn't have happened without it!

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My wife and I originally met on the Internet. Quite honestly, anybody that doesn’t like it can suck an egg! We need each other more than we need anyone else, and sure don’t need their approval.

I met Stuart online too. I flew over 4 months after first chatting to him and that was all it took to know we were that right for each other.

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As if the craziest thing MIL said was about meeting someone on the internet!  As far as I am concerned, all the other crap about not welcoming friends, complaining about having to buy presents and designating Christmas as being "about" particular people is 1000 times more crazy and toxic. 

As if the craziest thing MIL said was about meeting someone on the internet!  As far as I am concerned, all the other crap about not welcoming friends, complaining about having to buy presents and designating Christmas as being "about" particular people is 1000 times more crazy and toxic. 

In front of the person who her SON wanted to invite, no less!  She's HIS loved one.  It truly is shocking.

As if the craziest thing MIL said was about meeting someone on the internet!  As far as I am concerned, all the other crap about not welcoming friends, complaining about having to buy presents and designating Christmas as being "about" particular people is 1000 times more crazy and toxic. 

Exactly!

I met my husband off match.com, even though it turned out he lived right around the corner, about 4 houses away.   We both laugh because our second date he invited me over for dinner and neither one of us blinked an eye that a stranger was going into a private house without any other people around. We're lucky neither one of us turned out to be a serial killer (yet?  ) .   Yeah ,scary ole people from THE INTERNET!!! 

  Yeah ,scary ole people from THE INTERNET!!! 

I'm convinced my MIL thinks the new girlfriend lurks in chatrooms, waiting to prey on innocent men, ha! My husband did mention to me that she's spoken to my BIL about "the dangers of being online." She must have read something in the newspaper about it, or saw something on the news and really took it the wrong way.

I have an update regarding Christmas! My BIL received a text from my MIL asking what sort of things should go in the new girlfriend’s stocking. He’s taking this to mean she’s welcome to come for Christmas. I wonder what made her change her mind?

My MIL is buying a Christmas stocking for my older BIL’s new wife,  too. However, this is where it gets a bit weird. My husband highlighted to her that she’s never done this for me and her reason was that I “believe in Santa Claus, not Father Christmas.” I’m not bothered about gifts from her, but it’s how now she’s singling me out that’s just odd. I won’t be there anyway, so at least I won’t have to sit there awkwardly on Christmas. My husband is disappointed that his mother has used this excuse, seeing as we’ve been married for a few years now. Years ago before we got married my husband came over for Thanksgiving, and the day after my family put up their tree so that we could all start the Christmas season together. My parents wanted him to help and when it was time to hang up the stockings they gave him one. He wouldn’t be there for Christmas, but they still wanted him to feel like family.

As a side note, my older BIL’s new wife had never celebrated Christmas until last year (religious and cultural reasons).  That being said, she’s probably never “believed” in Father Christmas, and given that the new girlfriend is American, I doubt she ever wanted to see Father Christmas as a kid at the mall (because she’d be calling him “Santa”).

It’s all so bizarre. One day my MIL hates you, the next she’s buying you Christmas presents. Who knows what is going on in her head.

SWGF1, please promise me that if you have kids this person will never be left alone with them. 

SWGF1, please promise me that if you have kids this person will never be left alone with them. 

Promise. We don’t have kids yet, but we have talked about moving back to the US when we do for that reason.

Well...... SWGF1.....Wow.......... 

Wow. I have no words... But at least she's welcome at Xmas now!

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yeaaahhhhh, I wanna hear the report AFTER Christmas before I think all is settled and done. 

What a nutjob!

Another day, another battle with the NHS. I need a scan for my back injury, been waiting weeks for the appointment letter. Receive it, and it's booked at the hospital really far from my house. I call to reschedule because I can't physically drive that far right now, and get hit with nothing but attitude from the scheduler. She tells me rescheduling puts me back at the bottom of the list, and when I object to that get a lecture on how the NHS is free and without conveniences of being able to always go to your closest hospital. When I called I asked for any of the closer ones, not just the closest, and we are more aware than most that the NHS is not free with the IHS surcharge plus our NI contributions. I emailed PALS for help, because I'm not entirely sure it was rescheduled. I hung up because I couldn't manage the conflict.  Mrrrrrrrr.

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