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America married a Brit
« on: December 18, 2010, 02:21:08 AM »
Hello.
My name is America and my husbands name is Tom. I was born in Omaha but moved around the states- TX, AR, IA, NE, FL as well as a short while in Japan. My husband is English, but born in the states and raised in Scotland. (His accent is English but slips into Scottish occasionally. :D ) We live in Laramie Wyoming now. He will finish his undergraduate degree this year and we hope to move to the UK as soon as he is done with classes. We love our pets, but cant wait to have kids. He has the fever worse than I do, and I am a birth junkie!

I dont want my first post to be negative, but we are not happy here in the states and want to make sure we have everything ready to make crossing the pond easier. We dont want to make it to the airport and find out the dogs needed one other shot and end up in quarantine, or that we have missed some form and my visa doesnt get approved... or any other un-forseen issue. I love this site because it has lots of information!

We have a family friend that has an unoccupied house in Newton Abbot, so that is where we will probably move to first, but hope to end up in Scotland. Glasgow is home for Tom!

Yes, the irony of my name is very CLEAR. Dont worry- I have a sense of humor!


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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #1 on: December 18, 2010, 02:25:45 AM »
Welcome, alljustsquirrels!  Good luck with your eventual move!


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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #2 on: December 18, 2010, 03:42:05 AM »
Thanks! I'm having a hard time posting anywhere else because I want to read everything and post everywhere! Ha! If I'm not careful I'll be on here reading until the wee hours of the night!


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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #3 on: December 18, 2010, 04:40:47 AM »
Hi! Good luck with your journey :)


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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #4 on: December 18, 2010, 06:26:48 AM »
Hi Alljustsquirrels,
Welcome...So you are going to be staying in Newton Abbott that is great. That is about a half hour from me as I live in Brixham....it will be nice to have someone from UKY so close. Good luck with everything. If you have any questions or anything about the area or about anything let me know.

Again Welcome
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and to be loved in return"


Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #5 on: December 18, 2010, 07:19:48 AM »
Welcome to UKY!


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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #6 on: December 18, 2010, 04:29:52 PM »
Welcome!  :) 

If you truly are a "birth junkie" you'll definitely want to look into joining the NCT (National Childbirth Trust) when you arrive.
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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #7 on: December 18, 2010, 05:08:05 PM »
Hello and welcome!  Good luck with the move!!


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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #8 on: December 19, 2010, 12:21:52 AM »
Welcome!!

I was going through the process to quarantine my husky for a while to, but I ended up changing my mind, I just didn't think she would do well with the travel and change! :( I miss her but she's in a great place now!!

Good luck with your journey!  :D


 
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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #9 on: December 19, 2010, 01:51:34 AM »
So you are going to be staying in Newton Abbott that is great. That is about a half hour from me as I live in Brixham....it will be nice to have someone from UKY so close.
Josy

That's great! Maybe we'll have to have tea someday! (Feel free to add me on facebook, but beware- I am photo happy!) We really don't know where we want to end up long term, but everything I've read/found so far about the Devon area makes me happy! We will probably be in Newton Abbott for a few years while we explore! My husband is a big canoeist (He and his father run the Yukon1000 in Canada.) and we are excited to be near real water! Right now there are almost no places to get wet, and its frozen or under 10 feet of snow at this altitude. I prefer being closer to sea level!



Welcome!  :) 
If you truly are a "birth junkie" you'll definitely want to look into joining the NCT (National Childbirth Trust) when you arrive.

I so will! Maybe I can now?! I am looking into midwifery schools even!
I was planning on driving 3 hours to Denver Colorado to start DONA international doula certification but midwifes are illegal here in Wyoming so there would really be no use. I talked to the only midwife in the state who had been practicing for 26 1/2 years and it made me cry- she delivered her 282 baby for a couple who came from out of state and the infant developed GBS and died back in Nebraska weeks after the birth. It was the only loss she has ever had. The state then charged her with practicing medicine without a license and closed her 'practice' down- even though she had the OBGYN backup that was required and GBS isn't something the hospitals routinely check for either and had nothing to do with the care she provided during labour. She was almost in tears, still answering the phones a year later just to tell expectant mothers to leave the state because that's the only way she could help anymore.  It really scares me that the legal system can do this to a very professional and experienced person, who there is a huge demand for here. It just makes no sense. I'm terrified we'll get pregnant here.



I was going through the process to quarantine my husky for a while to, but I ended up changing my mind, I just didn't think she would do well with the travel and change! :( I miss her but she's in a great place now!!

We want children very bad and have been displacing that need with pets- we actually have 5 dogs and a cat now. (Along with 5 ducks in the backyard and a small tortoise.) We decided that 3 of my little dogs need to find good homes. They are beautiful show dogs and I just couldn't say no when I took them in, but I don't think they are attached to me and would be happy being spoiled pets instead of going through the move. I'm having a hard time finding them homes because they are worth a lot of money and are fairly unique. (They are all hairless.) It seems everyone is struggling financially though.

The travel is going to be tough still because we'll be bringing one little dog- Attila, a hairless Chinese crested, one medium dog- Faroe, a black mix rescued from the pound, and a cat- Pebbles, a 17 year old rescued sphynx with us. We are getting their paperwork in order so we can avoid the quarantine. My little dog was my fathers dog and was in my fathers arms when he died (my father died a week after his 44th birthday) and I don't really know if he (or I  ;) )would survive quarantine. The cat is old, toothless, hairless and very needy and I dont think she would survive 6 months of separation either!



Sorry for the long post! Whew! Its nice to meet everyone!


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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #10 on: December 19, 2010, 05:41:23 PM »
That's absolutely heartbreaking about the midwifery situation there. 

I don't suppose you could join the NCT until you're actually here, though with knowing where you'd be living you could find out the closest branch at least.
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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #11 on: December 20, 2010, 10:35:40 AM »
Hi, America! I'm another one in Devon. Have lived in Plymouth for the past 6 years. It's about a half hour from Newton Abbott, as well. We used to go to the horse races in Newton Abbott, though it has been quite a few years. Anyway, welcome to UKY!


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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #12 on: December 20, 2010, 03:15:57 PM »
Certified Nurse Midwives are legal in WY. 


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Re: America married a Brit
« Reply #13 on: December 20, 2010, 09:26:43 PM »
Certified Nurse Midwives are legal in WY. 

Technically, yes. They changed legislation recently. We had one CNM in town but she moved out of state a while ago- my husbands grandmother and aunt are both obgyn. His grandmother had her own practice here until she retired (Which is why my husband and his brother were both born here-she delivered them.) and his Aunt moved back to fill the spot the CNM left. There are a few organizations that plan on sending midwives and instructors to the area, but that could take a few years. CNMs are still required to work under a physician so they really dont have control, and neither does the mother. It is still dictated by hospital legal policy instead of evidence based midwifery. There are no home births- you have to go to a hospital. I cant even find any childbirth classes here. Most women just move/drive down to Colorado where there is a large midwifery community and many women end up having thier babies in hotel rooms in CO. The midwife in the nearest town was shut down and all of the local physicians refused to back her. I heard there are a few midwives in the opposite corner of the state, but thats at least a 6 hour drive through a mountain pass.

My point is- there are no options. There is only red tape.


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