I have a girl friend in the USA, it's a long story but I need advice.
I met online with a girl through a support forum (mdjunction.com) in June 2009. She had been raped twice within 2 years before this, one was particularly bad as it involved a 15 hour kidnap, but she lived. I on the other hand is partially sighted and I'm losing my sight over a slow period of time. The support site also had a depression forum and on that forum we started talking and one thing led to another.
She was married in Feb 2009 to a man she'd been with for 5 years, the rapes in question resulted in a new born girl from the rape. Since the rape the relationship was on the rocks, he was very abusive man (sexually, mentally and violenlty) the marriage was a last ditch attempt to makes things work.
My input via speaking with her didn't help, this led to them breaking up. I visited her in California (her state) in Feb 2010 for 3 weeks. I left her at the time because I had work commitment. The abuse over the coming months after that was getting very bad, so I made arrangements with work to have 2 months unpaid leave. I visit the girl again in May 2010 for a month, I paid for the girl then to come back with me for 4 months to the UK, June - October the 4th, I went back with her for a month until November the 5th. My girl friend has been in the USA since then until now for 3 months.
Before she left for England she divorced her husband she was having alot of trouble with, it was an annulment which allowed it to be quick but this uncovered a complication. She was married 10 years ago, she is 28 now and had a child and got married back then. She thought she was divored, but it was never finalised in 2004, this allowed the annulment but now she has to finalise the divorce. The guy from 10 years ago will not co-operate and is making it difficult and complicated. My gf has been dealing with the current divorce and all the complications of children etc and been trying to cope with all the lifes problems for most of 2010
My girl friend (and me) want to spend another 4 and half months in England again (Mid Jan 17-20th until June 1st/2nd), we can do the divorce from here or most of it during that time, its all forms and waiting. The last four months was fun but my girl friend was really in a bad way, she was recovering from the abuse, the divorce, it was very hard to be away from her children (web cam etc was allowed a few times a week), the 4 months vanished. England and the way we live was a BIG culture shock, was hard to make the most of it and she wanted to return again in early 2010 (no dates where met then, just March ish).
The next 4 months here I hope we can make more of it, I have mobility training or plan on it in Feb and onwards if needed, its my birthday in Feb also there is a lot of bank holidays in Spring to allow us to travel the UK a lot more. We couldnt drive so were stricted to Bristol and Bath and the occational trip to theme parks and one trip Wales. 4 months is proberly the max my girl friend could be without being with her children, it was hard.
There is another complication. I May my girl friend was pulled over for speeding and she gave a false name because she didnt want to lose the car, she needed it to run the kids from her moms to her now ex a ot before she came home (Tickets were already booked). Ofc whilst she was here she was called for court but didnt know because she was here, she had a faliure to appear and when she returned in October she was arrested at the US airport. I bailed her out $5000 dollars, she had court on Dec 7th and was placed in jail until Jan 10th, she was given a 60 day sentence and $500 fine.
My girl friend has ties to the US still, she isn't empolyed and has to live with her mom or grandma until she can get her head together and on her feet. The last 4months help SO much, and we hope another trip here would make the word of difference to both of us. I will be trying to return with her on her return in in June.
In the future we hope to get married once we get her properly divorced, as this just needs to be finalised I hope I can get the paper work showing she is divorced so we can apply for a fiancee visa to Marry her and most likely she would like to apply to be a UK citizen. Live and one day work here, make a life with me. I want her to study and become more independent, her last men were overly controlling individuals.
The father currently holds all the cards for offical and unoffical custody of her children, one of the kids isn't his, we hope to make a life in the UK with frequent trips/time in the USA until we can get custody (or try). She would like to have her little girl here in the long term. Hoefully we can come to a mutual compromise with the kids rather than drag it though courts.
A lot of questions arise from this
On entry to the UK last time, my girl friend was only given 10 min questioning at the airport, I was there ofc but we didnt prepare any apaperwork or evidence other the the ticket home, she got through with a 6month Visa.
What will most likely happen if she tries to get in for 4 months this time, I've only just learned of the spent rule "constructive" rule, 6 month in 12 month period. Should I try for 3 months rather than 4 or even less?
Will this conviction have to be declared on a visitor visa, will it go against her? Will they be aware of it, I wont lie if they ask, but does it needs to be mentioned?
Will the conviction go against her or these two 4 visits or being denied in Jan be against her for further visits or even applying for the fiancee visa.
Anyone have any concerns or advice that I cant think off that will help or I need to consider?
All this worrying is killing me. I just want to be with my girl, help her, she help me, get our lives in order, make a new one together.
[mod note - I have edited out the duplicated text here for the OP]