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constant fighting
« on: May 02, 2012, 03:57:45 PM »
has anybody experianced constant fights with there SO's before you closed the distance??? me and Denise have done alot of that on and off the last few weeks, i know its because we havent seen each other for a year and a half, but i hate this  :\\\'( we never used to fight like this until i got denied for my visa, i just wanna get through this appeal(which is next month) done and over with, have the rejection over turned and then finally move there so we can start our lives together. tired of all this  :\\\'(
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Re: constant fighting
« Reply #1 on: May 02, 2012, 04:34:24 PM »
Aw...hugs to you.  It's completely understandable since this is a beyond stressful time for both of you because of the unknown.  Also, the unfortunate part is that the person you care for the most tends to be the recipient of "stress attacks" because you both care so much...add the distance and strain of not seeing each other for a long time, it's a lot to bear for anyone.

I do hope this all ends well soon for you both.
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Re: constant fighting
« Reply #2 on: May 02, 2012, 07:12:01 PM »
Big hugs to you! We didn't have the fights, but we didn't have the horrible amount of stress you are going through. If you both can find a way to refocus the stress (gym, walks, screaming at a wall, whatever works for you), before talking to each other, it might make it easier to talk without the stress getting in the way. I know that is easier said than done, but as kbee said, it is the one you care for most (and feel most comfortable venting to, and not having to pretend everything is okay when you are talking to) that ends up being the recipient of your stress attacks.
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Re: constant fighting
« Reply #3 on: May 03, 2012, 07:23:15 PM »
Awww hugs to you. My SO and I had a few arguments here and there back in March, but that was mainly due to my small worries about moving over there. It sounds like it is a stressful time for you both, and I agree that you should both find a way to refocus that stress to something else to relieve it. :)
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Re: constant fighting
« Reply #4 on: May 03, 2012, 09:45:05 PM »
DF and I had a few tense conversations when I was applying for my visa due to the stress. I would imagine that your situation is much more stressful especially if you haven't seen your OH in 1.5 years.

Good luck with your appeal! :)
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