I am actually crying, I can't believe I have found a forum of people like me - I have felt all alone for so long. I need someone to help me PLEASE, I think I may be going crazy.
I have been begging my husband for 8/9 years to move to US & now that he has agreed I am so confused/SCARED....
Let me start from the begining. I met my British husband 12 almost 13 years ago whilst on holiday in Hawaii, a trip in which I won. I was modeling & NEVER wanted to marry. I was 21 (ah my youth, I thought I knew everything) BUT after only 4 days I knew that I loved him deeply & wanted never to be apart from him. We courted by phone, letter & vacations. After 2 years he finally asked me to marry him. Without a second thought for my beloved America, we married & I came to live in London.
I had a very difficult times making friends, most women hated me, talked about me behind my back & generally shunned me and most men wanted to be more than friends - they took my friendliness as a come-on. Luckily my husband (ex British Paratrooper) stands 6'4" and can be quite scary when he wants to, which frightened off the ones who would not take no for a answer. After a while I became wary of talking to people I didnt know, which was just the begining of my change from happy/outspoken/friendly to alienated/lonely/depressed.
I spent many years crying myself to sleep because I missed my family, most deeply my mom (my very best friend). My husband knew how much I missed her, so he bought me a computer for my birthday, so I could talk to my mom online every day, which helped a lot - but it wasnt the same.
I've spent most of my years here feeling so desperately alone (although I have a few friend who love me & have been there for me). I found this the hardest thing, the lack of acceptance, the always on the outside looking in. Whether people like to admit it or not, there is a great deal of anti-american feeling here, although the British are too "polite" to come out and say it.
My husband loves me dearly and wanted so badly for me to be happy, but maintained for many years he really wanted to live in London. He loves USA and has travelled through more of it than me, but he is a London boy born & raised. He is extemely loyal to Queen & country.
Then, tragedy struck, 6 days before my son was born, my mom (my mentor/best friend) died of a brain aneurysm (@52). Due to my 'condition, none of the airlines would not let me fly home, not even to attend my mom's funeral (& the depression really set in).
I have not been the same since. I stopped going out, I cried all the time & I wanted more than ever to go home. After my son had his shots, I travelled home for 5 weeks. My husband phoned me & I told him that I would not return to England. He begged me to come back, so we could make a decision as a family. True to his word, he finally WILLINGLY (I did not want to force him to go, I wanted him to WANT to go) agreed that USA would provide our 2 children with a better chance at life and willing agreed to move.
This is when the anxiety attacks began. I can not even begin to explain, because I don't understand it myself, but I am so scared I feel sick whenever I think about the whole 'process' of moving. I think I am desperately afraid that I will move back and I will be as foreign there as I am here. I am afraid that I won't be able to make any friends and I will be as unhappy there as I am here. I am scared to start all over again, at least here I am comfortable (unhappy yes, but it's safe). Boy, I think when all this is over I am going to need some serious therapy - hahaha.
OH PLEASE HELP ME - have I really crossed the border into insanity lane? Has anyone else felt this way?