Thanks, larabee! Yikes, didn't think this through. I think I got so used to the ways things are done in China (oddly enough). Yes, marriage is in the cards ... but we were hoping to get married here. Can I not get married here as a "tourist"? IF we were to take the route of getting married here in the UK and I would need to leave to apply for the spouse visa, do you know how long I would need to leave the UK? I read in one forum 3 months...I hope not!!! ... And to spice it up a bit, not sure if that matters logistically, he is not a UK citizen; he's on a working visa here.
As for staying here, I have an online job that I was banking on, and just planning to leave every 6 months and reenter. But I also read in another forum that working online counts as working and would be deemed as illegal. Yikes. Also, can't find anywhere that distinctively states I could leave every 6 months and reenter, so it seems pretty risky.