How long before marrying?

We met online August 2001
Met November 2002
Married June 2005

March 2004: met through some other forums online
January 2005: Did the whole confessing our true feelings for each other thing
June 2005: Met in person when I went to the UK
August 2005: Decided we wanted to get married
September 2005: I came back to Oregon
Will be moving back over there around July or August of 2006, then getting married in October of 2006.

So far the longest we've been apart was the 5 months before we met in person, obviously not counting the year or so where we were just friends.  But we've no plans to make any trips until July at the earliest, unfortunately...so that'll make it 10 months.  But it's worth the wait. 

But we've no plans to make any trips until July at the earliest, unfortunately...so that'll make it 10 months.

Wow, 10 months...and here I am agonizing over my six month wait (only 1.5 more months to go!)  After this visit, I don't ever want to be apart for this long again *sigh*

We will be at about six months when Simon comes in December - I can't even think about it, about how long it's been.  If all goes well with the visa this should be our longest period apart, if you don't count the 8.5 months between when we met online and met in person.  Now THAT felt like a million years!!!

~Liza

Wow, 10 months...and here I am agonizing over my six month wait (only 1.5 more months to go!)  After this visit, I don't ever want to be apart for this long again *sigh*

Well, almost 2 months of that have already gone by.  And we're both pretty busy getting stuff sorted out for the wedding and the move and finally finishing our degrees...so while it still doesn't go as quick as I'd like, it's going quicker than I thought it would when I left England. 

I met Raul back in the summer of 2003 online, only to lose touch for until around January 2004 when he just happened to pop up on my BL one day and so I IM'd him.  After that we kept in touch and became really good  friends. To be honest I'm not entirely sure when our relationship turned from friendship into dating but it was roughly the summer of 2004.

We met in person August  23rd this year and that's when he proposed

He flew back September 4th.

So we've only physically ever been together two weeks, but it felt like we'd always been together and I knew a long time before that, that I wanted to marry Raul.

He's back November the 5th and we're getting married on December the 2nd.

Met online July 2002 as I was preparing to move to London for a job.
Moved in together November 2002.
Married April 2004.

We did not have to do the long distance thing because our relationship blossomed after we met in person.

May 24, 2003:  Met while on holiday in Madrid
December 17, 2003:  We met again for the second time in Washington, DC.
October 2004:  I came to London to live with him.
August 6, 2005:  We got engaged in The Mumbles, Wales!
January 24, 2006:  We'll be married in St. Pete Beach, Florida!

The longest we were ever apart was the 7 months between our initial meeting and our second visit in DC.  That was horrible!  We dated long distance for 10 months, but we were able to visit each other about once a month.  We were really lucky to be able to see each other that often.  I don't know how we would have coped otherwise.

-Met online in an American chat room - October 2001 (he says he doesnt know why he was in an American chat room)
-Met for the first time in person March 2002
-I came to england on a student visa Oct 2002
-Married Feb 2003


and the rest is history....

some personal questions...answer at your own discretion...just curious.

How long did you and your brit hubby date before deciding to get married?

How long did you date long distance before doing so?

What was the longest time apart you spent away from your future hubby?

How long did we date before marrying?  We aren't getting married until early January 2006.  But we had known each other about 9-1/2 years before becoming engaged...and had been romantically involved for about 7 of those years.  I'd been living here in the UK (on a work permit) a little over 2 years when we became engaged.

I think that answers the second question also.

The longest time apart?  I think about 4 months.

Good luck to you both!  The long-distance thing is awful sometimes...!


Janet

(lordcelery.blogspot.com)

some personal questions...answer at your own discretion...just curious.

How long did you and your brit hubby date before deciding to get married?

How long did you date long distance before doing so?

What was the longest time apart you spent away from your future hubby?



I'm interested b/c I've seen posts of people experiencing up 6months apart between visits. This seems extreme and I would think it's difficult to keep a relationship going without the prospect of a future together (for most that means marriage). Just an inquiry - b/c my brit bf and I are so in love and if I wasn't going to study for a year for my masters, we'd be making the marriage committment sooner, not right away, but sooner than discussed now.

Hmmmm..we knew each other as friends for about 5 years..then around may we started talking a LOT more..and by july we started to get really close..and we made the decision somewhere in there to meet in person. We met and were going to spend originally 1 day together, then it went to 4, then it went to a week...then a month..there were circumstances though that made that necessary (the extra 3 weeks, the first week was just because we wanted more time together).

We talked about the possibility of marriage rather quickly into the relationship, not will you marry me type stuff but we both knew we wanted a serious relationship, neither of us wanted to just have something temporary. But Id say it was about 1 month into it that we talked about it..but as I said we had known each other a lot longer...we're not engaged yet ..dont know when we will be, but we do talk about getting married. And obviously some day I will have that ring but gotta wait until he's ready

The longest time apart has been...since we actually admitted we had feelings for each other...about 2 1/2 months. So I really cant complain as its really not been that long that Ive been w/o him but the time now is sooo hard..I just want to be with him

We have talked about what would happen if we had to go 6 months w/o seeing each other...lets just say I didnt like the answer I was given I know LDR is VERY hard...but I know in the end we want to be married...so to me while 6 months would be extremely hard to endure Id do it because I'd know in the end it was to be together forever someday. Unfortunately not everyone feels the same way. 

Met online May 2004
He came to visit me for first time in Aug 2004
Talked about marriage during his stay
tried again to visit at end of Sept 2004 but didnt make it
Another visit from Feb 2005 till July 2005
Small break up for 3 months from Sept 2005
Realised we couldnt live without eachother
Got back together in Nov 2005
Proposed to me Dec 2005
His next visit is Feb 2006
Hopefully the wedding will be in May or June 2006 when i return to the States with him.

February 2005 - I came to England on a tourist visa (were never apart again)
April 2005 - Officially engaged
May 2005 - Married

so...you married while still on the tourist visa?  or did I miss something?
I was recently informed that this is not allowed and am  trying to check all angles

They must have done it just before the rules changed...

Among_the_stars got married in the US.