random crying

I find myself just breaking down into crying "sessions" at random moments. It's really hard to deal with missing him and being depressed...alone. My house is empty and it will be for a whole week. I'm the only one here as my mom and her husband left for hawaii today and my sister is never home. It's so quite and lonely here so being left alone with my thoughts and sadness is really hard to deal with.

Adam went out with his friends to go bowling and I find myself feeling left out even though im not there. I guess it's because they are doing the same thing we did when I was there and I feel i should be there. Adam has text me a few times since he left and he just text me saying it's not the same without me. That made me cry...

How do i get over this? How do I get over feeling down and lonely? I don't know what to do...I don't know how I'm going to go a whole year like this...like I told someone else earlier the only time I'm not sad is when I'm sleeping and I can bearly do that.

 Sorry for these stupid sad posts but I don't know where else to turn too because no one else understands. :\\\'(

 

It will go in stages. I get the same thing, and I know thats not a real help to you, but don't feel like you have noone to talk to. THere's people here for you. I'm so sorry you are having a bad time. It does get easier, trust me. Me and my fiance have been 9 months LD now, and its not easy still but it does get easier. And now b/c of visa stuff its going to be another 6 months at least.

Just know there's people here whenever you need to get things off your chest.

Aww, reeka...

I did the same stuff when I came back here.  I was such a mess at first!  I know it's really small consolation, but I found the only thing that really helped was time.  I just eventually got used to it again.  I also found a lot of different hobbies to occupy my time.  Stuff that takes my mind off of it is a very good thing.  I like to do crafts and stuff that make me concentrate on what I'm doing.  It's helped a lot.

Like Annie said, it'll go in stages.  I hope you get to the "okay" stage soon.   

It will go in stages. I get the same thing, and I know thats not a real help to you, but don't feel like you have noone to talk to. THere's people here for you. I'm so sorry you are having a bad time. It does get easier, trust me. Me and my fiance have been 9 months LD now, and its not easy still but it does get easier. And now b/c of visa stuff its going to be another 6 months at least.

Just know there's people here whenever you need to get things off your chest.

I hope so...It almost feels like it won't ever go away ...or just until we get together again. Thanks...god I hope your time flies by so you can be with ur DF soon.

I hope so...It almost feels like it won't ever go away ...or just until we get together again. Thanks...god I hope your time flies by so you can be with ur DF soon.

Thank you. And I hope yours does too!

Do you have a webcam, b/c that has seriously helped me alot, we just use it on msn or yahoo messenger, and it means that we can see and hear each other at the same time. THat helps a lot too, and saves on huuuge phone bills.

And like Candice said, keep occupied. I've been lucky in a way b/c I've had university to give me other things to worry about. I also have a countdown to when I'm going to see him next, and that helps to be able to physically see each day be crossed off.

Aww, reeka...

I did the same stuff when I came back here.  I was such a mess at first!  I know it's really small consolation, but I found the only thing that really helped was time.  I just eventually got used to it again.  I also found a lot of different hobbies to occupy my time.  Stuff that takes my mind off of it is a very good thing.  I like to do crafts and stuff that make me concentrate on what I'm doing.  It's helped a lot.

Like Annie said, it'll go in stages.  I hope you get to the "okay" stage soon.   

I'm a mess also...it's horrible. I'm semi glad no one is home because I hate people seeing me cry and I'm doing it ALOT.  I go back to work next week so hopefully that will help...although at this present time I don't think it will but we will see.

Thank you. And I hope yours does too!

Do you have a webcam, b/c that has seriously helped me alot, we just use it on msn or yahoo messenger, and it means that we can see and hear each other at the same time. THat helps a lot too, and saves on huuuge phone bills.

And like Candice said, keep occupied. I've been lucky in a way b/c I've had university to give me other things to worry about. I also have a countdown to when I'm going to see him next, and that helps to be able to physically see each day be crossed off.

You're welcome.

Yeah we do...just haven't done it yet. I feel stupid asking him...we bearly did it before but now it's like anything will do. Even a recent picture or a phone call...or voice chat. I dunno...

You're welcome.

Yeah we do...just haven't done it yet. I feel stupid asking him...we bearly did it before but now it's like anything will do. Even a recent picture or a phone call...or voice chat. I dunno...

Why do you feel stupid? I can't see why you missing him and wanting to see him would be stupid. Ask him to share his smile with you to help you find yours again!

 As for the random crying, I am the same way. Sometimes I am good, but lately I have just been feeling so sad and down and missing him so much. I just cry a lot lately at the silliest moments, and have been feeling hopeless really and I can't explain it! 

I know it will get better for you and for me.  I really hope you start feeling a little better soon. At least we have UKY where people understand what we are going through! Hugs to you. 

The webcam gets easier, don't feel awkward about it. I'm sure he'd probably be happy you asked   

Or write him letters...I wasnt sure that my DF would like letters, I didnt know if he'd feel silly getting love letters, but he ;loved it, even if Id already told him the news. Or just a quick e-card to say your thinking about him. Even if its something small it will make his day, and then he might be more likely to not feel silly, or sappy doing the same for you?

Oh and for right now, get yourself a huge bar of chocolate. Chocolate is often my answer for everything, especially when I have the teary days. And call someone if you can. I had a teary day yesterday, and I called my mum, my dad, and my sister, as well as crying out to some friends and a roommate. I can imagine its extra hard being in the house by yourself though.

Reeka,

I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you. I am also doing the random crying, but in my case it is because I am leaving!.. no BF (broke up a little bit more than a month ago, and he is staying here) but because my life is about to chage drastically!  I just bought a ONE-WAY ticket, and THAT STARTED EVEYTHING, I cannot seem to stop crying since then. I know you would LOVE to be in my situation (ONE-WAY.. no return!) but in my case, there is no one waiting for me in UK!!

It sounds almost funny... you crying for being here.. me crying for leaving!  Do you want to trade places?

I am so sorry, and I agree with everyone's advice.  I don't know what else to say, I just wanted to tell you I'm here if you need anyone to rant at or anything!  I hope you feel better soon, although I know it always takes a bit of time.   

 

That's all. 

Sorry I got backed up on comments. I just want to thank everyone for their concern and their wishing me better. I really appreciate it. I just woke up and I do feel better than I did yesterday but I better not speak to soon seeing as I have all day left.  I'm sick...I'm guessing it has to do with the dramatic weather change...going from rainy/cold to hot/dry weather...i've got sore throat and stuffed up nose so Im feeling DANDY! 

Anyway thanks again

Just had my first random cry since the day Gareth left two weeks ago.  Miss him so much and has been hard to get back into my life before he visited cause my house feels so empty without his presence here.  It does help to know that he finds it hard to get back into his "normal" life now that he's back ... Still ...it may be a whole year before I can move over there.  I wonder will we get used to visiting one another and returning to life without each other, will it get easier?