The flight is non refundable, and none changeable without a massive fee... basically my best option would be to cancel it, loose the money and buy a flight on a day that my visa will still be valid for. I have looked into it.
I also looked into taking the first leg of the flight and just canceling the second half of the flight, spend a few days in germany as I have never been there then taking a flight from germany to birmingham which is like 200 bucks. I will look more into this to make sure I can do it etc. I have never been to Germany, my grandmother was from there =D
She did NOT tell me that the visa wouldn't be valid until the date I told her I planned to go, she just asked what date I planned and I told her, and said I didn't have a ticket but that was when we were looking to go. and I wasn't warned that the visa would start being valid the day I told her on the phone. I didn't even think of asking her if that were the case as mostly I have heard they are valid for date of issue unless you ask them to postpone the date it starts at etc.
Others have said a date they planned to go and had the visa issued at different lengths before the date they said.
They may not change it etc, I know that... it's just somewhat frustrating, if she HAD told me ok I will make the visa valid as of the date you say you planned to travel I would have told her to make it valid a week or two before that as I hadn't gotten the tickets yet as I WAS warned not to do.
I am ok with how things are, and things happen for a reason, I hope they will change the date if not then I will deal. heh I am an overly emotional person and am actually proud that I only shed a few tears instead of break into complete gloom and doom hysterics so LOL who knows maybe that's the reason this happened heheh
Live and learn eh?