I watch too many romantic movies!

I realize I should post this in the girly part of the forum, but why bother with another thread?   My friend and I had a conversation last night about chest hair. We were eating dinner and out of the blue she said "I've decided I will never again date a man who shaves his chest hair".  I laughed and almost choked on my thai noodles and she explained that there is a *certain* type of man who shaves his chest and she has dated many of them and has now sworn them off completely.  After thinking about this, she is SO right!  Do any of your boys shave their chests because if they do, I will stop right here... but the other thing we realised is that when we were younger we both prefered guys with no chest hair and actually thought chest hair was icky, but now as we have aged/matured we have slowly become fans of it. ... Ugh just as I was writing this and in a super good mood today, the horrible volunteer has reared her head again and ruined my day. Hmph and I was enjoying my first good mood in a while.. that was short lived.

But anyway, as I was saying, chest hair is fun

hahaha. Good point. I think I still would prefer no chest hair, but am not willing to date the kind of guy that usually does go along with that. Not to say that ALL guys that shave their chest hair are bad, but from personal experiences, the ones that do are not my type at all. I don't really think about it so much any more.

For my work, I do admin stuff. Reception currently (I wanted an easy job for a little while) so it's BORING. Sometimes I really like the boringness... but, you know, it's boring! So there you have it.

Ugh - I am feeling more and more sluggish and yucky as I can feel the cold progressing. Just have to make it through the day! Hope I don't have to call in tomorrow, but that may be the case.

Jamie, good to have you back. I'm glad you've made a friend. And you haven't been there THAT long yet, so you will be just fine! I won't be just down the street from you, but we'll have to meet up for our own wine party after I get there.

Beth, here's a question about your job. Do you like being a teacher? (I forget what age you teach). When I was little I used to always want to be a teacher. I would play "school" in the garage and write on a chalk board and everything. Downsides from what I understand are low pay and having to deal with kids that can be total brats. I don't know that I like other peoples kids enough to do that anyhow. But I still think it would be kind of fun.

Hope Josy's okay.

Carey, I'll absolutely let you know how my name changing process goes - you might have to remind me though. I feel the same way about my last name, so I wanted to make sure to get it changed. Plus, I didn't want more hassle after I get there than I will already have to deal with.

Chichi - I actually dont think I want my last name changed, but will do it if he has a strong opinion the other way. The question I was asking on the other thread was if I could change it after the REAL wedding ceremony rather than deciding after the LEGAL marriage.  I was figuring I would go to the UK as Carey Maidenlastname and then after the ceremonious wedding I could be Carey Davidslastname if it proved to be a issue (OR if we decided to have children since I would want any children to have the same last name as both parents).  Basically, I want to be able to change my last name if/when it suits me

Sorry, I meant Becca . Did you get an answer to your inquiry on the other thread? Because, yes that would work just fine. I've read lots of people on here that have changed their name after they got over there.

Nope.. didnt really get an answer, but I like your answer that it will be fine, so I'll go with that!

I've never read anything that said you had a time limit and I don't see why there would be anyway. It's not like your marriage expires, so you should be able to change your name whenever you like as long as the supporting document (marriage certificate) is still valid - meaning you're still married.

Hi Ladies,

Jamie I am soooo proud of you ....what you did takes a lot of courage...and you not only went out by yourself today to get the wine you are going to have girls night on your own. I remember the first time I took the bus by myself it felt good...and my first girls night at some strange girls flat...It will all be worth it I can't wait to hear about it...

Patty I hope everything is well with you and Ian? I hope you got to talk to him?

Carey That is an interesting point you raise about chest hair...Jason has a hairy chest...I don't think I have ever dated a man with a shaved chest...have I missed out on something?

Becca-That is cool your mom sent you your Christmas package...and it is good to have a visiting schedule...I know you are going to be sad and depressed when you come home..but that is why you have us sappy romantics...to help you thru it )

Chi Chi I loved the bit about the nailpolish...it is the little things that are important....

So for todays episode I didn't get the email. He said it was going to be a very long one and I do know that we talked till 3:30am his time last night or it would have been this morning to him and he had to get up at 5:30am...Wed is the day he does the magazines and if he gets stuck there late he has to go right to his other job...and I know him and how he is with sharing his feelings...it is easier for him to write them down sometimes then tell them...so I have a feeling he didn't finish the email and that is why I didn't get it. He told me last night if I didn't get it not to worry cause he promised he would do it and send it to me...so I am left waiting to see what his explanation is...right now I have no energy left to be sad or mad or otherwise because my cold is kicking my behind...so I am not going to worry about anything tonight and just see what tomorrow brings...I will keep you all posted....

oh and on the last name thing...I thought about it long and hard and even though I love my last name cause I have had it my whole life...I think I would like to change my name to my husbands name....

Nope, no time yet for leaving.  February, probably. Tim might be going to India with a friend of his, and while I've been invited along, I personally can't afford 2 weeks in India, and I really don't want Tim paying for the entire trip.  On the other hand, it would be interesting to find out if I'd get re-stamped with another 6 month stamp if I left and came back before my first 6 months was up, but then I also thought about what if I got told to go back to the US and then most of my stuff was at Tim's because of us going to India.  So...yeah, I don't think I'll be going with him.

I love the touch.  Mom bought it on Black Friday from Amazon - they had the 16gb ones for $199!   I really wasn't expecting it to be mailed, I figured she'd wait until I got home to give it to me, so yay.  I've been playing with it ever since. Tim thretened to take it away because I wsn't paying attention to the movie we were watching last night.

Josy - He'll come through, I have hope!

I'm having a bad day today, girls...  I dont really know why, but I feel angry at him. Its terribly unfair, but I think an irrational part of me is blaming him for us being apart. Or maybe blaming him for not being as upset as I am when we are apart?

Blech.

And then, my Pandora (the internet radio thingie that Beth was talking about) played a song called "Could It Be Any Harder", by The Calling.   Its probably about someone who died, but these lryics are perfect for LDRs too.

Could it be any harder to say goodbye and without you,
Could it be any harder to watch you go, to face what's true
If I only had one more day

I lie down and blind myself with laughter
A quick fix of hope is what I'm needing
And now i wish that i could turn back the hours
But i know i just don't have the power

I'd jump at the chance
We'd drink and we'd dance
And I'd listen close to your every word,
As if it's your last, I know it's your last,
Cause today, oh, you're gone

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ewHLy8T2cpA

Carey, sorry it's not a good day for you. I will listen to that song at home tonight (no youtube at school.) I'm the same way. I'm always listening to songs and lyrics and seeing how they apply to me any my life!! Remember, he may not be showing you how exactly he feels while you're apart, but I bet he's feeling the same way! Go home and have a nice glass of wine tonight!

Josy- any update?

Becca- nice score on the ipod touch!! Thing is, I've got a nano and a video ipod (nano is strictly for running). Do I really need a touch??? No. Do I really WANT one???

Nothing exciting going on here. Fought for 4 1/2 hrs last night to get my internet working on my new laptop again (was working on the old one!) Didn't get to sleep till midnight. I am so ready for a nap it's not funny! ANywho, hope you're all having good days! TGTF!!!!

Carey I think this is where most of the trouble happens with the ldr...one partner or the other gets really upset at the other one because they are separated...Honey it isn't his fault or your fault..you are just in love...and saying goodbye is the hardest thing...especially if you aren't sure when the next time you are going to see him is...if you do know that you can use it as a little goal to move toward..and even though it feels like it will be forever until you are together...you will be together soon...and hopefully someday you will be together forever...I am sorry you had a horrible day..that song does say everything though...I will have to check it out...there are a lot of other songs that express how it feels to be separated and they just make me feel worse sometimes....

I am sorry I am writing so late...I was out of work sick today...but guess what...I discovered Skype and Jason was at his dads for dinner and his dad has a cam and mic and we skyped all afternoon...it was the first time in 6 months I got to see Jason and I can't tell you how amazing it was...to talk to him and actually see his facial reaction...it made all the difference in the world..so much so he is going out on one of his days off and getting a camera for home so we can talk...I tried to tell him before about getting a camera but we both never really followed thru...it made all the difference in the world...he isn't going to send me the email...because he said after our talk the other day he rethought everything...and I said is not sending it a good thing or bad...and he said a very good thing...so we talked all afternoon and we talked about us and our relationship and what happened...basically he took the whole visa refusal thing way to hard and when he got more bad news from immigration about a question reguarding me being able to come over on my passport it hit him real hard...and I think for awhile he was mad at me like it was somehow my fault we were separated..(sound familiar Carey) but I think he realizes now that it isn't my fault and that we have to work together if we want this...and that I think he realized he really wants this...maybe part of him was scared...but he said he is coming to visit me on Valentines Day if he can get a flight..which I am sure he can...we are talking about going for the visitor visa again...we have some more information this time...and he promised me that if we got refused again he won't freak out...he will get on a plane and come right over and we will decide what to do from there...so I think we are on our way to being together again...we are going to talk more again tomorrow...and I hope he gets a cam soon because I loved seeing him while we talked...looking at each other made all the difference in the world...so we shall see....again thank you for all your support...I wouldn't be able to get thru this without you...

YAYAYAY Josy!!!!!!! Awesome news!!

Oh, Josy, YAY!!!!!!  I'm SOOOOOOOOO glad you got to talk to and see Jason!  And yes, web cam DEFINITELY helps when you're in an LDR.  Oh yay yay yay yay yay!  I'm so happy for you.   Is your cold getting any better? 

Everyone else, how are you doing??

And I took yesterday off from posting because I was an emotional wreck.  There's a glitch with my phone company and that's why our internet still isn't up and running.  Called Earthlink last night (my ISP) and they're investigating the issue with AT&T right now.  The guy said I'd be lucky if the net was up and running this weekend *sighs*.  So, I've been frustrated to all hell.  I got home Wed. night from work (when the net was scheduled to be up and running again), it wasn't working and Ian wasn't online, so I was in a horrible mood.  I cried all night, cried almost all day yesterday (even at work), then my chat with Ian was short because I feel guilty about keeping him awake late anymore, and it's not the same as web cam chat and hearing his voice and whatnot.

Buuuttt.....wrote Ian an email because he basicly told me to "suck it up and get over it" (not those EXACT words) so I got some of my thoughts out...it helped.  Whether or not he'll be a team member with me, I don't know....but atleast it got some of those thoughts off my mind.

So yeah, but anyways...so TGIF...best be off here since I have work (but the weekend off).  We're supposed to get 5-10" of snow in the next few days.  Eeps. See you ladies later!

Oh Patty sweetie...I am sooo sorry about your internet...and I am sorry Ian doesn't seem to understand what you are going thru...the internet and phone are our lifelines in these ldrs...I hope he reads your email and it sinks in what your going thru....if you need anything you know where I am

Don't work too hard lady....

My cold is a little better I am working from home today cause I look like death warmed over lol

Geesh! Sorry Patty! Internet outage sucks major!! I hope it gets fixed ASAP!

Josy- feel better!

Carey- things any better for you?

*Hugs* to everyone who needs 'em!

OK. I had a REALLY weird dream last night. I was on a bus of some sort with people from UKY! I think I remember Garry or Jim was on there because I was saying I should really get a job with UKBA and he was arguing saying there's no way I could get a job there since I'm not British. We were talking about other stuff on the bus (like the forum, I guess???) I woke up before we got where ever it was we were going in the bus! LOL I *think* some of you were there on the bus, too, but in the background.... it's all pretty hazy!

Last night I was looking into flights for this summer's trip. It seems that flying to Dublin really is MUCH cheaper- like almost half the price! I have friends there, so I'm thinking I could visit them for a few days, then head on to London on Ryan Air or something? This morning, the alarm went off to U2's Sunday Bloody Sunday. Is that a sign?

Only thing is, do you all think the prices are going to get worse or better if I wait just a little? I want to book within a month or so, but do sales come up in late Jan or Feb? Booking air travel always makes me extremely nervous because I hate to overspend, esp on my budget!

Anywho, gotta prepare for the sub that will be here Monday. I have a dr's appt and took the day off! WOOT! I'm going to the Thrashers' Casino night charity event Sunday (they all dress up and work the tables! Eek! ) and don't want to have to worry about getting up early for work on Monday, so the appt. is well timed! What have you all got planned for the weekend??