Nerves before seeing each other?

Hey everyone,
I'm sure there's already a thread about this somewhere, but I'm in too much of a state to hunt for it right now haha.
My boyfriend is going to be here on Saturday, and I'm kind of freaking out. It's weird. It's been four months since we saw each other last, which I know is nothing compared to what some people do, but I'm having those little worries like - is it going to be the same?? The last time he was here there was absolutely no awkwardness; we fell right in to it. But that had only been 2 months apart, and this is double that, so I think that's where my nerves are coming from. We're both feeling it a little bit. We're doing awesome, we're not having any issues or anything, but I think in the last couple of days it's gone from "Wheee I'll see you in 2 weeks!" to "Holy crap, I'm actually going to TOUCH you in 2 days." I'm sure this is all very normal, but I need some confirmation! haha.

Also, it doesn't help, I'm sure, that I started birth control for the first time on Monday. I'm a basket case, and I think that might be the biggest reason. I picked a bad time to voluntarily pump my system full of hormones. Oh, the trials of being a lady in love

Thanks everyone! Take care,
Danielle

Hi Danielle,

First off yay for you! Ahh how I wish I was seeing my bf in only a few days. Yes I think it's normal to get a little nervous, I know I do sometimes even after being in a relationship together for several years. It's just that little freak out about will it still be the same between us, and you know what.. it is and even better every single time I see him again. So don't stress yourself out more about worrying a little. It will be fine, and you will have a great time together. As for starting the bc just before the visit.. oops. I did that a long time ago too with the bc patch, threw my hormones all out of whack and stopped smoking all at the same time right before my visit.. yikes I was a mess of hormones and emotions that time. But you will be fine lol. Have a great time with your boyfriend. 

Have to say from one lady in love to another.. I'm jealous! I still have a couple months to wait yet.

How exciting he's coming to visit! I would always have some jitters mixed in with the excitement, but we always just hit it off like we'd never been apart.

Have a great time together!

We would get a bit nervous after being apart for a few months.  I think it's normal.  Then I would see him again and remember that cute freckle on his cheek that I couldn't see on the webcam and little stuff like that.  And we would just fall in love all over again.  Ahhh.... LDR can be so romantic sometimes!  Enjoy this time!   

Yes, nerves are normal because LDRs tend to have a lot more riding on them.  You spend so little time in each others' presence that there can be undue pressure to make everything absolutely perfect when you actually are together.  My best advice is to just try and enjoy everything, including the nerves and hormonal ups and downs.

I have yet to meet my LDR Brit boyfriend in person. We have fallen deeply in love, but it's strange to have such strong feelings and yet never have shared a kiss or held his hand. I'm still trying to understand how that's possible, but it is. I've found my soulmate. I think it will be very exciting and nervewracking meeting for the first time. How has this gone for others?

jw66: I'm going thru the same thing right now: 1.5 years talking online, 9 months romantic, and in 15 days we're about to "meet" for the first time. Eeeeeeks!

jw66: I'm going thru the same thing right now: 1.5 years talking online, 9 months romantic, and in 15 days we're about to "meet" for the first time. Eeeeeeks!

WOW!!! That's really exciting, but you must be feeling so many things right now. I know that I will be absolutely thrilled when my DB and I finally meet, but I have a feeling I will also be nervous. I'd love to hear how it all goes!!!

Oh my experience was awful! I was so nervous I nearly threw up on the plane!  I stepped off, took one look at him and went straight into the Loo... Had to stay there for sometime before I realised that although we got along great on paper, there was absolutely zero chemistry there in person. I was just NOT attracted to him. Thankfully, we'd never exchanged I Love Yous and put ourselves in such a vulnerable position..

Oh my experience was awful! I was so nervous I nearly threw up on the plane!  I stepped off, took one look at him and went straight into the Loo... Had to stay there for sometime before I realised that although we got along great on paper, there was absolutely zero chemistry there in person. I was just NOT attracted to him. Thankfully, we'd never exchanged I Love Yous and put ourselves in such a vulnerable position..

That's definitely one of the odd quirks about internet relationships! 

As for LDR, having done that in a past relationship (and I knew the guy very well, we went to uni together and then I moved away and he was still in school)-the nerves in seeing each other again is completely normal.

But the first time meeting nerves are the worst.  Funnily enough, I initially met my BF online but he lives only a 2 minute walk from my house.  We wondered how many times we had passed each other in Tescos, on the streets, in town, never knowing...  But I was so nervous before the intial meeting and I couldn't even imagine trying to meet someone for the first time who lived 4000 miles away and I had just spent $1000 getting there to meet him, having to deal with immigration, etc.  Kudos to all of you who have LDR relationships across the oceans!

I think it will be very exciting and nervewracking meeting for the first time. How has this gone for others?

It was so exciting and so nervewracking...I wasn't even that keyed up on our wedding day!  Meeting him for the first time, I was so worried I wouldn't even recognize him.  We had only seen still photos of each other and you know how people don't always appear in person the way they do in photos...I was terrified I wouldn't know who he was and he'd have to come up and do some awkward introduction.  Ha!  Not so.  I knew him right away and we immediately fell into this long embrace.  The orchestra swelled, the birds sang - it was wonderful!  I hope it goes just as well for you.  Do you have a trip lined up yet?

Oh my experience was awful! I was so nervous I nearly threw up on the plane!  I stepped off, took one look at him and went straight into the Loo...

LOL!!! Yes, that can happen. Before I met my bf, I went out with a few others I met online - and sometimes that's exactly how you feel! You think you click perfectly, but then one look and GAH!!! 

It was so exciting and so nervewracking...I wasn't even that keyed up on our wedding day!  Meeting him for the first time, I was so worried I wouldn't even recognize him.  We had only seen still photos of each other and you know how people don't always appear in person the way they do in photos...I was terrified I wouldn't know who he was and he'd have to come up and do some awkward introduction.  Ha!  Not so.  I knew him right away and we immediately fell into this long embrace.  The orchestra swelled, the birds sang - it was wonderful!  I hope it goes just as well for you.  Do you have a trip lined up yet?

Thank you for this lovely description of your first meeting. I'm so glad it's worked out well for you.

We haven't lined up anything that is firm, only passed different scenarios around. I'm a single mother which complicates things, and we both feel that our first meeting should be just the 2 of us. It seems like such a huge step and we are both willing to wait for eachother, but I wonder if it's best to get the first meeting out of the way or wait for a more 'perfect' time.

Oh my experience was awful! I was so nervous I nearly threw up on the plane!  I stepped off, took one look at him and went straight into the Loo... Had to stay there for sometime before I realised that although we got along great on paper, there was absolutely zero chemistry there in person. I was just NOT attracted to him. Thankfully, we'd never exchanged I Love Yous and put ourselves in such a vulnerable position..

LOL! Exactly. DH and I didn't exchange too many hopes and fantasies in the run up to meeting - we knew we clicked but I think we both were also very aware that chemistry isn't something that can be conjured up and certainly can't be sussed out over the phone. Thankfully we fancied each other, but let's just say we both had a hotel back up plan... just in case. 

When I first met DH the nerves in me were riot!  Even tho I knew I would be ok...my friends had freaked me out..."what if he is a axe murderer" kinda of thing.  I used to tell them that I would never meet anyone, let alone fly to meet someone without thinking I was safe...

DH and I met under the understanding that we would be "friends" if nothing else...so I think that took the pressure off both of us a little.  I knew I had done the right thing when we finally met as soon as I saw a man standing in the airport with a big stuffed beaver in his hand ( no jokes please! I can see where this would go  ) I used to sign off our messages "love beaver teeth" ( I have a little gap between my teeth )

Soon as we were together we were laughing and joking and having a blast! hence why today we are mr & mrs LuckyCuz