Positive Aspects of an LDR

I just got back from the UK on Sunday of last week, and this has been a heckuva crap week for me.  My lovely bf and I are trying to decide how to proceed (UK visa or US visa) so I feel in a bit of limbo right now.  So, I'm trying to focus on the positives of our being separated for the next 1-3 months.  Here are mine thus far:

1. We both will get to travel quite a bit in the next year or so.
2. I don't have to shave my legs every day, or even weekly.
3. My bedroom in my apartment currently has a pink wall, pink windows, and couture posters. My living room has a teal wall and 3-D butterflies. Basically, my bf calls it the house of estrogen. (I prefer House of Chekhov- "I will go to Moscow!")
4. The toilet seat is always down in my apartment.
5. He sends me luuurvely things in the mail. (Like BOOTS!)
6. I have a man that really loves and adores me, even if he lives on another continent.
7. I have loads of time to go to the gym and for walks to be in stellar shape when we see each other again.
8. Skype is a really great way to keep in touch, and it's FREE!
9. We have plenty of time to make the right decisions.

Any other ideas?  I'm really trying to keep the glass half-full. 

1.) getting to visit a country I never otherwise would of visited, I don't think, while having an amazing bloke as my tour guide It was amazing to have an authentic fish and chips, proper rich tea biscuits, and an English fry-up.
2.) getting over my fear of flying (LDR's will do that to you, I guess)
3.) if I have a skin breakout, I can hide it easier
4.) love having a fiance with such an awesome accent, and with so many different life experiences from growing up in quite a different culture
5.) I love getting cards and such from the Royal Mail (am still waiting on my cheese and onion crisps though)
6.) feeling like the luckiest girl alive--yeah, he lives in England, but it isn't a completely insurmountable distance, and I'll end up getting to live in an awesome country as well
7.) MSN is pure love for me
8.) In the end, we end up appreciating each other *far* more than I think we would otherwise

I also agree with the shaving my legs bit--somedays I just don't feel like doing it, and he doesn't know

5. He sends me luuurvely things in the mail.
6. I have a man that really loves and adores me, even if he lives on another continent.
9. We have plenty of time to make the right decisions.

4.) love having a fiance with such an awesome accent, and with so many different life experiences from growing up in quite a different culture
5.) I love getting cards and such from the Royal Mail
6.) feeling like the luckiest girl alive
8.) In the end, we end up appreciating each other *far* more than I think we would otherwise

I also agree with the shaving my legs bit--somedays I just don't feel like doing it, and he doesn't know

These are great and some of mine as well, but I must add that my man knows the way to my heart is through fabulous English chocolate and he keeps me in constant supply

I just thought of another one in response to kittenfishes #1.

Cross cultural cooking! My bf and I have come up with recipes for breakfast quesadillas, Sausage and Mash in the UK with an American twist, and all sorts of lovely food combining our likes and cultures.

P.S. I learned two of my favorite expressions ever- "Bollocks!" and "I can't be bothered." from my bf. 

I just thought of another one in response to kittenfishes #1.

Cross cultural cooking! My bf and I have come up with recipes for breakfast quesadillas, Sausage and Mash in the UK with an American twist, and all sorts of lovely food combining our likes and cultures.

P.S. I learned two of my favorite expressions ever- "Bollocks!" and "I can't be bothered." from my bf. 

Hehe, my fiance uses that too, he can't be bothered for a lot of things I use it way too much for my own good, my family says I'm speaking like a Brit more and more nowadays.

These are great and some of mine as well, but I must add that my man knows the way to my heart is through fabulous English chocolate and he keeps me in constant supply

Oooo, I like the chocolate too, Steve's sister sent me some in a care package one time along with some biscuits The cheese is really nice as well, but that doesn't last very well in the post, especially with the Royal Mail 

Cross cultural cooking! My bf and I have come up with recipes for breakfast quesadillas, Sausage and Mash in the UK with an American twist, and all sorts of lovely food combining our likes and cultures.

I think this will be one for my list as well, as I can see how this will progress as we continue to send eachother our different foods. For instance, I send my guy different types of salsa and he's come up with a twist for his brunch dishes.

P.S. I learned two of my favorite expressions ever- "Bollocks!" and "I can't be bothered." from my bf. 

HAHAHA Gareth and I say "I can't be assed" i've always said bothered but never assed.

I agree with the whole distance makes the heart grow fonder aspect. I think we all appreciate and value our time with our SO's because we see them after long period of time have passed.

HAHAHA Gareth and I say "I can't be assed" i've always said bothered but never assed.

I agree with the whole distance makes the heart grow fonder aspect. I think we all appreciate and value our time with our SO's because we see them after long period of time have passed.

Steve has a variation on that, and I've been using it a lot lately--I can't be arsed. I use it a lot when I feel tired or whatever, which is a lot nowadays for some odd reason  But I like the saying anyway

As an acting major in college, I've taken some dialects courses. But dammit I cannot do the intrusive frickin' "r" As in "I cant be arsed."  Btw, I'm a dialect nerd.  A funny aside, when my bf was teaching at uni the dialects prof said "DO Not emulate Ross, he has a f**ked up accent." hehe

Steve has a variation on that, and I've been using it a lot lately--I can't be arsed.

Actually, 'arsed' isn't the variation in the UK, it's the rule . There's no such word as 'assed' in UK slang - 'ass' is American, 'ars*' is British (sorry, Eliza ) - however, it could be that when Eliza's DF says the word, it sounds more like 'assed' than 'arsed' due to the softer British pronunciation of the 'r'.

Actually, 'arsed' isn't the variation in the UK, it's the rule . There's no such word as 'assed' in UK slang - 'ass' is American, 'ars*' is British (sorry, Eliza ) - however, it could be that when Eliza's DF says the word, it sounds more like 'assed' than 'arsed' due to the softer British pronunciation of the 'r'.

It could totally be either. Gareth is a total dork for most American things. American classic cars, American jeans, American music and shock shock an American Girl 

Great post, sarahjoyhappy! I loved my LDR and all the excitement it brought to my life. In the end we are together for ever, which is the best, but those days traveling to be together and getting butterflies every time the phone rang were really special. 

There was a thread started not too long ago titled something like "Things you miss about LDR" and someone said they miss the "Hello!" lovin'.

I probably (just for you, historyenne ) agree with that -- but more than sex, even, it's just maximizing general phyical contact (the kissing, hugging, hand-holding, cuddling) storing up for the separation ahead. I think I really miss this kind of physical closeness. Now that we're together, we take being able to reach out and just touch the other person much more for granted.

There was a thread started not too long ago titled something like "Things you miss about LDR" and someone said they miss the "Hello!" lovin'.

I probably (just for you, historyenne ) agree with that -- but more than sex, even, it's just maximizing general phyical contact (the kissing, hugging, hand-holding, cuddling) storing up for the separation ahead. I think I really miss this kind of physical closeness. Now that we're together, we take being able to reach out and just touch the other person much more for granted.

See I'm hoping that because we've had so many times where we just couldn't reach out and kiss or touch, we'll never take it for granted again.

See I'm hoping that because we've had so many times where we just couldn't reach out and kiss or touch, we'll never take it for granted again.

Dream on, hon.  Never is a long time.  I've only been here for four months, and already I'm forgetting how miserable I was when we were apart.  We're a bit different from many of the people here in that we met in person and were together for a year, six months of which we lived together, before we had to start our LDR.  Now that we're together again, we've settled back into the way we were before.  We used to sit around, each at his or her own computer, and only talk when we had something to say.  That was what I missed most when we were apart, just sitting around together like that.  Now we sit around together and I nag at him about getting up and doing something    I love being comfortable enough to nag, though, honestly, instead of feeling like our time together is too precious to waste with anything unpleasant.  Nagging makes me happy