I have been reading the post here an hurt for you..I have tears of sadness for you but tears of joy at the same time as I finally have my visa an will be leaving in a few weeks to join my DH, I haven't seen him since Feb the week after we were married..omg it has been so hard..to make matters worse I am staying with friends cause I sold everything to fast an didn't renew my apt lease..the last 3 yrs have been a roller coaster, I s married for 23 yr when my husband died suddenly of a heart attack, last summer my last child left for college an I had empty nest..I decided to take my dream trip an out of the blue met the most wonderful man an soon I will be back with him..so hang in there ladies it will get better I promise!! remember dreams do come true!!