Inconvenient Annoyances

I can't imagine living with someone who treated me that way.  I hope they are empowered and choose to be there, as opposed to being stuck there.  Or, maybe it's an exceptionally bad day for that professor, and he would never normally treat someone that way...

I'm hoping it just sounded worse than it was....maybe? 

What is with people wanting the (Brass) band to play Christmas tunes for free?!?!?  Seems rampant this year. 
I will not entertain people who approach us, but want us to play for free. Nope. We recognise when there is time/place for doing things for free and we are also more than generous with our time and rates, but to just expect us to do it for free?  Nope.  The cheek.    

What is with people wanting the (Brass) band to play Christmas tunes for free?!?!?  Seems rampant this year. 
I will not entertain people who approach us, but want us to play for free. Nope. We recognise when there is time/place for doing things for free and we are also more than generous with our time and rates, but to just expect us to do it for free?  Nope.  The cheek.   

But just think of all the free "exposure"!   (I'm kidding!)

What is with people wanting the (Brass) band to play Christmas tunes for free?!?!?  Seems rampant this year. 
I will not entertain people who approach us, but want us to play for free. Nope. We recognise when there is time/place for doing things for free and we are also more than generous with our time and rates, but to just expect us to do it for free?  Nope.  The cheek.   

So much entitlement! 

The value people put on other's time is truly mind boggling.  How many people think they shouldn't have to pay for a photographer for an event?  SO MANY. 

My inlaws didn't notice me sitting in the next room and quite loudly discussed how badly they felt for my husband being married to me, "except he seems happy enough". Ableism is harmful. My husband won't say anything to them. I think this is my last time visiting.

OMG! 1.)That's horrible that your in-laws said that and 2.) WTF , why the heck won't he say anything?  I'd be raging at my parents were saying something so horrible about my husband

That doesn’t seem an ‘inconvenient annoyance.’ I don’t know what it is, but seems like they’re royal assholes. I’d be very angry if my husband didn’t defend me if someone was a bit horrible about me, never mind an absolute sh*t. Hugs. That sucks that ‘family’ feel like that, let alone say it out loud!!!!


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OMG! 1.)That's horrible that your in-laws said that and 2.) WTF , why the heck won't he say anything?  I'd be raging at my parents were saying something so horrible about my husband

He begrudgingly agreed to speak to them. Disabled people are 1/5th of the world population, and its a state of being that every human may experience temporarily or permanently. I don't know what they think "normal" is, but I thought having a partner who loved and supported you and your interests was it. They spoke about a number of friends who have disabilities during dinner and I thought we were making progress and they understood, and I couldn't have been more wrong. Why be fake supportive to someone's face and be so cruel when they think you can't hear?

Disabled people are 1/5th of the world population, and its a state of being that every human may experience temporarily or permanently.

  Unbelievable that you have to type this out because you are surrounded by people who don't understand this fundamental tenant of basic humanity.  Their attitude is not norm

My inlaws didn't notice me sitting in the next room and quite loudly discussed how badly they felt for my husband being married to me, "except he seems happy enough". Ableism is harmful. My husband won't say anything to them. I think this is my last time visiting.

They are soooo much in the wrong.  I can sort of understand  your husband's hesitation at confronting his own parents, it's hard to judge.  It's easy to judge that the in-laws are assholes and deserve to have a lot less contact with you.  I would be busy any time they want to see me for a long while. 

Small community jobsworth cows

I'm only able to take the brand name of my urticaria medicine and it's out of stock everywhere. The generic is immediate release and has fillers I'm allergic to, completely different. In the US they were similar enough I could use the target brand (but not Walmart) and buy 6 months at a time. A friend gave me a week of the name brand to help while I keep calling pharmacies in hopes one comes across it. I'm so tired of it being a battle for bare minimum medical care for things I didn't even need a prescription for in the US.

Check your mail.    What brand do you use?

Check your mail.    What brand do you use?

Thankfully solved temporarily! My sorta local friend with the same condition was able to have her pharmacist track it down - but even he said he couldn't make promises for next month, it's been completely unstable in the supply chain. Going to have my mom ship some though, along with some of my grandma's tatting equipment that she's been promising she'd send for 2 years - so this will be me paying for it and getting her in gear. (Executive dysfunction runs in the family heh)  My immunologist offered a much stronger med but I'd need to go without for much longer to reach the weekly "score" needed to qualify and I'd be absolutely miserable/not functioning to do so and at risk of anaphylaxis - so not something to put myself through willingly.