How long before you were engaged?

We did LDR for 3 years after we met that fateful night in a pub in Manchester...we got engaged after 2.5 years and have been married for 13 years!

I think we were together for about 1.5 years before he proposed, and that it will be not quite 2.3 years of being together when we get married in 3.5 weeks!

We always find it a bit hard to figure out just when we started dating. We met in a pub in Hong Kong and usually count that as when we started dating, but didn't see each other for about 1.5 months after that.  A few weeks after that we went on vacation together and the rest is history.

He proposed on my birthday.  Nothing makes turing the big 3 0 better than a proposal from the love of your life.  Of course, the diamond was nice too!

We sort of had an idea we were going to get married even before we met.  We both wanted marriage, and weren't interested in perusing long relationships that weren't seriously headed towards marriage.  Both of us had done that in the past, several times in fact, and we seemed to get along very well online and on the phone.  We met about 6 months after we started talking and were officially engaged a few weeks later.  We got married a month after we were engaged.  We celebrated our 9th anniversary this past October.

Maybe we were lucky, but to me it felt different than the other relationships I had and still does.

Congratulations Alibabba! 

We got engaged one year and four months while doing LDR and we are getting married in December..... And will still do LDR for a couple of years after we get married.  We both knew pretty much from the beginning that this was it! Even with the obstacle of having an ocean between us and having to jump through hoops to make it legal and eventually be together permanently, I wouldn't change a thing, he is soooo worth it!

It's funny and great how everyone here is just saying that they 'knew'.  DF and I were trying to figure out when we went from two people having a fling while traveling to getting married and moving countries. 

I had an idea that he was it very early on, but dismissed it as I thought it was too ridiculous and silly.  He felt the same way.  But by the time we had been together for 7 months (his first visit here) we just knew that we had to be together and that we needed to do whatever we needed to do to make that happen. 

Engaged 13 months after we first met in person, married two days later.

We've been married since November and in 16 days I'm moving to England, just days after my 21st birthday (silly rule) !!

Just shy of 7 years after we first hooked up, on my 30th birthday. We'd been living together for several years at this point as well. We're getting married on 10 October, just under a year since he proposed and about 3 weeks before our 8th anniversary. We've not had any LDR as we met after I had moved here (but only about a month and a half after my arrival!).

Goodness, clearly I am one of the "extended courtship" folks.  We have known each other for a little over 5.5 years and none of this was an LDR.

We were mates for 6 months.  We dated for nearly 4 years before getting engaged - with 2 of those living together.  We married 6 months later (this January).  And it has been 6 months since.

Goodness, clearly I am one of the "extended courtship" folks.  We have known each other for a little over 5.5 years.

We were mates for 6 months.  We dated for nearly 4 years before getting engaged - with 2 of those living together.  We married 6 months later (this January).  And it has been 6 months since.

We have known each other for 7 years now, it's just we didn't meet until about 2 years ago.

It's funny and great how everyone here is just saying that they 'knew'.  DF and I were trying to figure out when we went from two people having a fling while traveling to getting married and moving countries. 

I had an idea that he was it very early on, but dismissed it as I thought it was too ridiculous and silly.  He felt the same way.  But by the time we had been together for 7 months (his first visit here) we just knew that we had to be together and that we needed to do whatever we needed to do to make that happen. 

This!! DH and I met in Australia while travelling and spent about a week together before we returned to our countries in early Jan. We chatted a bit just after we got back but I never thought it would go anywhere and felt a bit silly for even continuing it..... Then in the April everything kind of changed and we suddenly became serious (as serious as you can online) and knew we were gonne end up together.

In short, we got engaged one year after first meeting, 9 months after deciding to be a couple and after only 6 weeks of actual face to face time. I think he would have proposed on that trip in August if he had met my family but he wanted to wait to meet them so he proposed on the next trip at xmas time. We got married 8 months after being engaged and had our big wedding 5 months after that.

Met him 9 months after I moved here, got engaged after about 8 months together and, oh lets see about a month or so after that, there was no engagement.

Yes,things can really, really go too quickly, in a bad way. Looking back, that was really, really, really stupid.   But hey, we 'thought we were one of those 'when you know you couples'- and maybe so, but head over heels in love can sometimes really mess with your head as well.

So we slowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwed down and put the brakes on. That helped-we're still together, almost 3 years now.  Don't live together still though. 

But who knows where life goes though and where it will go next!!

I can really, really appreciate that so many people on this forum don't have the luxury of slowing down though, as marriage is the only way for most people to be together. 

DB said the other day, (paraphrasing Beyonce) "I better put a ring on it, because I like it."  

Needless to say, that probably still won't be happening for a while.  We met while I was an exchange student and lived together for the first 5 months. Did the LDR thing for slightly more than 3 years. We know we're meant for each other and fortunately, have had the chance to live together for the past 11 months. (While I envy those on here who knew they had met "the one" instantly, we probably wouldn't have worked out if we rushed into things!)

Our 4.5 year "anniversary" is next week

(While I envy those on here who knew they had met "the one" instantly, we probably wouldn't have worked out if we rushed into things!)

Not to be cynical but I know a lot of divorced people that initially said that they knew who they married was "the one" and they supposedly knew instantly. I think people just say that when they're really in love. Truthfully though some couples live together for 10 years and it doesn't work, while some get married after knowning each other a month. I think it completely depends on how much you put into it and the priority you give your relationship in order to make it work forever.

1 year and 310 days. I'm only being so specific because I literally got engaged last night!!!!!   

Congrats!!!

I got engaged in 2009 (and married in 2010), but had originally met DH in 2004. 

Not to be cynical but I know a lot of divorced people that initially said that they knew who they married was "the one" and they supposedly knew instantly. I think people just say that when they're really in love. Truthfully though some couples live together for 10 years and it doesn't work, while some get married after knowning each other a month. I think it completely depends on how much you put into it and the priority you give your relationship in order to make it work forever.

I couldn't agree more GibbyGab It's different for everyone, but I personally feel when you know.. You know!