Another facebook rant!

Pornographic? That's insane. Everyone can see it! I don't mind when couples say a quick "loves ya, happy birthday" or something lol. But love letters and disgusting detailed posts are beyond me!

I have a friend who got pregnant as a teenager and now everything she posts is about either her child or being high while her baby's asleep. It's no surprise to me that she's a crappy mom considering all she ever did in high school was get high and do things she "didn't remember". But to post about her stupid decisions so everyone (including her parents) can see? That's just dumb.

One of my facebook friends, every Friday and Sat evening, obviously when drinking, posts loads of Youtube music videos up, at least 20 a night, so the next day I have to wade through all those..."heres another one", "this song is great" etc.... I just block him over the weekend and then unblock in the week when he actually posts some good links.

Oh and another thing.....do people honestly think that I've not seen Slade's "Merry Christmas" this year?!

Happy belated birthday from me too!  

Another FB mindset that chaps me are the ones who carry on and on and on about people who are always posting about their drama... when a good 90% of their own posts are about how life is so unfair and no one understands them or gives them a break, etc. There is one on my list who has neverending woes and posts about them, but if you really focus on the sentiment of what she is saying, she is making mountains out of molehills and most of her BIG life problems are because she instead of coping with the little things she adopts a 'poor me' attitude. Yet at the same time she says how she is sick of reading everyone else's drama.

One friend from school and her husband had such a knock down, drag out argument on FB with very revealing, very hateful and hurtful comments, they ended up separating and divorcing over it. Obviously, you get to a certain point where you're headed toward divorce anyway or you don't behave that way where everyone can read it, but it seemed a bit childish to me to handle it in that way.

Another friend and her husband will send the quick 'love you and miss you' type messages to each other, but they don't do it often and it is all rated G. I find those uplifting because it is a reminder to me that we should all tell people we love them from time to time. These two were high school sweethearts - he graduated in '88 and she graduated in '89 with me - and they are my love heroes, so dedicated and loving. They work different shifts at the moment so they don't see much of each other through the week. They send these messages from time to time and to me it feels like an 'I love you and I am comfortable saying it for the world to hear' type of sentiment. (The people with the mushy, gushy, and bordering on pornographic public messages however...)

I also agree with the incessant posts about being drunk. Sure, I love a good night out from time to time, but some people seem to post about it every weekend. There are a couple of the guys I graduated high school with who are still doing it. I just want to reply and remind them 'Dude... you're 40 now. It is time to leave high school behind'.

Yes! The youtube thing! I have no problem with someone posting a song or two. I do it myself from time to time. It is the ones who will do 20 to 40 of them in a couple hours that make me want to go to their houses and take their computers away. SIL is one of the worst. She posts them so close together there is no way she has time to listen to a song. I've seen her post 10 in four minutes.

Not intending any offence, but I cannot STAND people who post exclusively and exhaustively about their children.  One of my friends has a 2 1/2 year old daughter and she has not had a single status since before the kid was born that didn't make reference to her; the majority are paragraph-long descriptions of things she's done, said, even eaten FFS.  She's a really good friend so I haven't blocked her, but I have blocked other people who do the same.  

THIS!!!!!!!
I dont care about your kids potty training (SIL actually posted about her kid taking a dump on the kitchen floor...) or sitting up..  or they blinked really cutely for five seconds.. My SIL is stupidly guilty of this, though shes home alone 95% of the day with JUST her and the baby. I guess its her only outlet for those kinds of things.. Its still frustrating for everyone else though...

I just wish more people would move over to Google+. You can mute posts and the like.. Its loads easier to keep your feed/stream clean and organise people as well.

THIS!!!!!!!
I dont care about your kids potty training (SIL actually posted about her kid taking a dump on the kitchen floor...) or sitting up..  or they blinked really cutely for five seconds.. My SIL is stupidly guilty of this, though shes home alone 95% of the day with JUST her and the baby. I guess its her only outlet for those kinds of things.. Its still frustrating for everyone else though...

I just wish more people would move over to Google+. You can mute posts and the like.. Its loads easier to keep your feed/stream clean and organise people as well.

http://www.stfuparentsblog.com/

I just wish more people would move over to Google+. You can mute posts and the like.. Its loads easier to keep your feed/stream clean and organise people as well.

Tried it. Hated it.

I just don't really see it getting off the ground properly, tbh.

My beef is with high school friends who constantly post pro-military anti-Obama FOX news drivel...think I need to hide one in particular from my feed.

Re: posting ad nauseum about your kids I'm sort-of guilty of that. But not PARAGRAPHS thank goodness!  It's easier for Mom to keep up to date between Skype calls on the kids if I post a sentence or two about the things they do or what they weigh now.

Not intending any offence, but I cannot STAND people who post exclusively and exhaustively about their children.  One of my friends has a 2 1/2 year old daughter and she has not had a single status since before the kid was born that didn't make reference to her; the majority are paragraph-long descriptions of things she's done, said, even eaten FFS.  She's a really good friend so I haven't blocked her, but I have blocked other people who do the same. 

I'm with you on this one.  One of my good friends' wife had their baby and for the first three weeks or so, there was a pic a day.  After the second day, I stopped posting how cute the baby is.  She's adorable, but COME ON!  Enough!  I love kids and babies, but I don't need to know when/if your child is potty trained or if they have the sniffles, etc.

Don't even start me on the YouTube clips.

Not intending any offence, but I cannot STAND people who post exclusively and exhaustively about their children.  One of my friends has a 2 1/2 year old daughter and she has not had a single status since before the kid was born that didn't make reference to her; the majority are paragraph-long descriptions of things she's done, said, even eaten FFS.  She's a really good friend so I haven't blocked her, but I have blocked other people who do the same. 

One of my friends goes a step further.  She blogs about her kids, both in the present and the past, and all of the links to the blogs are posted on facebook.  Yep, you read right, she blogs about things that happened one or two years ago!  It can be things like "my home birth was amazing and so easy" (the birth was 3 years ago), or "I remember when [baby] first discovered our iPhones and started playing with them/putting them in her mouth".  This person also encourages people to comment on her blog posts.  She has something set up so she can see how many people read it, and apparently she wants a large proportion of those to leave a comment as well.

Another FB mindset that chaps me are the ones who carry on and on and on about people who are always posting about their drama...

This is another good one.  I have a couple of Facebook friends who like to post passive-aggressive status updates.  eg. "You can hurt me, but you can't break me.  You know who you are.  I know who my friends are".

This is another good one.  I have a couple of Facebook friends who like to post passive-aggressive status updates.  eg. "You can hurt me, but you can't break me.  You know who you are.  I know who my friends are".

My question is, if someone truly hurts your feelings ALL the time, why would you have them as Facebook friends? I understand family can hurt your feelings but in most cases you almost have to have them as FB friends, but for others you don't have to have them on there. Plus, I wouldn't want everyone on my friends list knowing anything so personal if it was a spouse/significant other, sibling, parent etc who was causing so much grief.

The woman I was referring to will also post things about her adult kids that I think should be private, or up to the individuals to tell if they choose.

I had a work colleague who posted up that on such a date (which was a couple of weeks away), he was going to cancel his account and to leave a message if you wanted his email address. He started doing a countdown each day and saying "you've not got long if you want to keep in touch", I eventually replied saying "will you hurry up and go!"
Funny thing is, he's still on facebook!
I think people do it for attention and to get some sort of self-esteem from people saying "oh no, please don't go"!

I can totally sympathise with what everyone said here. FB is just an intense overload of information. Some of which we could all (obviously) do without!

I use FB as a means to stay connected to  my family, which is scattered between two continents. As for my "Wall," i try to never report anything too personal of what I'm doing or certainly where i am. I do occasionally post the random quirky thought that pops into my noggin, a favorite video or if something unusual happens to me... (keyword being "unusual here... FB friends take note!)

The biggest pet peeves i have is the airing of the dirty details of their lives, the dramas of their failing relationships (only to report a couple days later how much they love them and are thankful for them), and the everyday, monotone stuff we all do, like "I'm doing Laundry!"  NO YOU'RE NOT... you're on FB!

And my favorite.... dum dum dum.... fake, showoff proclamations of love and appreciation towards their partners, family and kids, which are UTTERLY lacking in any sort of sentimentality and are written simply for the sake of attention and of appearing as if their lives are so full and important.

Oh yes, Happy, Happy Birthday GibbyGab... i hope you had a wonderful time!

I had a work colleague who posted up that on such a date (which was a couple of weeks away), he was going to cancel his account and to leave a message if you wanted his email address. He started doing a countdown each day and saying "you've not got long if you want to keep in touch", I eventually replied saying "will you hurry up and go!"
Funny thing is, he's still on facebook!
I think people do it for attention and to get some sort of self-esteem from people saying "oh no, please don't go"!

Haha! That's brilliant!

Oh wait, I just remembered the worst facebook incident I've seen.  A couple of years ago, a friend from high school (not really in touch anymore) was engaged to a guy who was in the army.  She regularly posted about how much she loved him and how great their relationship was.  Then one day, she found out he was cheating on her.  Her status updates all became about her anger at him, and how lovely all her friends were for sticking by her.  Then she made a facebook group, and invited everyone to join.  The title was "John Smith is a horrible person who treats women like dirt".  Lots of people joined and offered condolences.  And lots of "John's" friends joined and said things like "Well done you crafty beggar!". 

A couple of days later, she tried to delete the group, but couldn't.  So she had to post a message asking everyone to please leave the group so that it could be deleted.  But they didn't, more people just kept joining.  Eventually she must have contacted Facebook to get it deleted, and it was gone.

It's a sad story, but I felt she really made things worse for herself.

FB is getting a little old. I have some family members and others who just use it as a way of PM'ing each other.  Stuff about the kids or what they're having for dinner.  I don't really need to know about that kind of stuff.  And I'm sure I'd have even less interest in Twitter.  Call me old-fashioned -- and you'd be right!