So just thought i'd start a new topic to follow up my epic vent about moving here. Since my last post, some things have gotten better but the in-laws have gotten worse. I feel like i'm going to crack. I could go on and on about the things that bother me but to sum up, MIL's biggest fear is her son moving away. Every time I see her, we get asked "if we are settling in" (even more than a year later) and "if we will stay in the UK." Last week, i got caught with her alone and she asked me again. I said I don't know and to be honest, it's expensive here and yeah, one day I might want to move home.
If you've read my last post, you know I dont care for it here. But I think a lot of my frustration comes from deep homesickness. I'm started to get really offended her asking me that every time I see her. I get she doesnt want her son to move but she has to deal with it, just like my friends and family have dealt with me leaving. This is someone who flipped when I took my husband to visit my family for christmas, even though we see them once a year and them at least once a month. i want to tell my husband to tell her to stop asking but she kind of also gets off on causing tension.
i'm honestly worried now how this affects my marriage. i really miss home and maybe i wont move right away but i definitely want to in the future. but of course, on the flip side, my husband is cut off from his family and i dont want him feeling the way i do. it seems either way, someone loses big time. i feel if we moved, i'd feel guilty but then again, i feel horrible here cut off from everyone and MIL's pressuring me to stay is not helping.
is it just me or is this really rude? what would you guys come back with? it's literally everytime I see her, even to the point if we mention other americans she asks "do they sty here for good or just stay temporarily." and i know she's asking not because she cares if I like it here, but because she doesn't want him to leave.