I'm Really in a Low Place and I just need someone to talk to

I really don't know what to do about this everything is riding on this visa application. I am so stupid that I made this mistake. I cant have my visa refused because of this dumb mistake. I dont't know what I'm going to do. I really feel like just ending it all because I feel so alone. I just dont know what to do. I wish I could put myself out of this hell. I dont know why I;m so stupid and awful. I'm a terrible waste of space and I don't know how I can exist. I am such an awful person and no one loves me. I am in just so much pain and I just want it to stop.

Hello,

I'm really sorry that you're feeling like this. Visas are tough and complex.

If you are having sucidal thoughts, feelings, or simply need someone to speak to please call the Samaritans on 116123. They are available any time, day or night.

Hi Larissa, thank you so much for responding. I feel so terrible I don't think I even have the energy to speak to someone at The Samaritans. I just want to end this its just too much for me. I just think there's to much wrong with me. I just want to end my life.

I really don't know what to do about this everything is riding on this visa application. I am so stupid that I made this mistake. I cant have my visa refused because of this dumb mistake. I dont't know what I'm going to do. I really feel like just ending it all because I feel so alone. I just dont know what to do. I wish I could put myself out of this hell. I dont know why I;m so stupid and awful. I'm a terrible waste of space and I don't know how I can exist. I am such an awful person and no one loves me. I am in just so much pain and I just want it to stop.

I am feeling the same stress about everything riding on my visa application. Mind if I ask which visa you applied for and what the mistake was? The application definitely had some confusing parts and people on this forum (including myself) also made mistakes due to this. If you are feeling that low that you are suicidal though, you really should seek some professional help.

Hi NorthBoston2London,

Thank you for responding to me. I had to update my BRP Card because I have updated my maiden name to my married name on my passport. They issued me a new BRP Card this summer and when they said the date that your current visa was issued I put 08/08/19 instead of my first BRP Card 05/06/17 because the uk immigration says you have to get ride of your old brp cards. I can't believe I am so dumb. I can't do this any more I am so much od a failure. If the visa gets refused because of this I just feel like ending it all. I just can't cope with this its too much.

You aren't alone. The mental health impacts of these visas are significant. I'm sure they will understand an innocent mistake and ask for a correction, and if not, you do get a grace period to apply again. Please do call samaritans, that's what they are there for. You are valued, you have people who care about you, and your life has worth. Keep hanging on. *gentle hugs*

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Thanks for the kind messages. I try so hard working 80 hours a week but we used everything we had on this application. I cannot apply again. I dont have the money to apply again. This is so bad.

I know it's hard to see through the trees right now, but you don't even know that this will be an issue. I don't know the entire story, but I recommend trying to get some rest tonight and approaching this again tomorrow. In your other thread you mentioned entering a date wrong on the application but not paying the fee yet. You should be able to edit the application, and if not, add a comment about the mistake in supporting documents that you submit. We know UKVI are terrible, but a small mistake before you've submitted should not be an issue. When does your current visa expire? And based on your financial evidence when do you need to apply? I recommend taking the evening to step back from it, and looking at it again in the morning if you can. Fresh eyes after some rest can make all the difference.

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Hi Jedi it wouldn’t let me change anything because I think I did the nhs payment. I tried to go back before making the full application payment and they wouldn’t let me change anything. I tried so hard and went over the application but because I have been sick and having so much stress I missed that date. I knew I had to change it but I thought I did. I’m not a liar or a deceiver I just don’t know what to do. I don’t know why people hate me.

Sorry Margo, not Jedi. I meant to put the date my current visa started as 05/06/17 and not 08/08/19 when it was updated to reflect my new married name. I am so torn up about this

Hi Jedi it wouldn’t let me change anything because I think I did the nhs payment. I tried to go back before making the full application payment and they wouldn’t let me change anything. I tried so hard and went over the application but because I have been sick and having so much stress I missed that date. I knew I had to change it but I thought I did. I’m not a liar or a deceiver I just don’t know what to do. I don’t know why people hate me.

You will still need to upload your supporting documents, so I would add a comment in a cover letter that you hadn't realised you put in the wrong date and weren't able to amend it after paying the NHS fee. As long as you meet the requirements, having a single date incorrect will not void the application if explained elsewhere. If you have to print the application I would also cross it out, correct it and initial it there. This feels insurmountable right now but I promise its not.

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I know it's hard to see through the trees right now, but you don't even know that this will be an issue. I don't know the entire story, but I recommend trying to get some rest tonight and approaching this again tomorrow. In your other thread you mentioned entering a date wrong on the application but not paying the fee yet. You should be able to edit the application, and if not, add a comment about the mistake in supporting documents that you submit. We know UKVI are terrible, but a small mistake before you've submitted should not be an issue. When does your current visa expire? And based on your financial evidence when do you need to apply? I recommend taking the evening to step back from it, and looking at it again in the morning if you can. Fresh eyes after some rest can make all the difference.

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Further on to this, even if you've paid, surely you still have to go for biometrics? Talk to the person at the appointment and let them know what you've done. I imagine they will be able to help.

While i know it's difficult to see now (I have long standing mental health issues myself), the visa is not worth ending your life over. You are loved and valued. Have you spoken to your partner about how low you feel? There are always options. This sounds like there is more there mental health wise than just a visa mistake and i would highly recommend seeking professional help because you deserve to feel better (stupid mistake or not). A stupid mistake is just that...stupid. and it happens. Everybody makes them and it's not worth beating yourself up over. If not samaritans, please talk to somebody in your life that can physically help. While speaking to us is good and we can understand the stress and mental health toll the visa puts us under, we do not know your location so cannot physically be there to help/take you to A&E to get you in person help.

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Hi Margo, thank you so very much for taking the time to speak to me like a compassionate human being. You are a beautiful person for caring. I So appreciate your suggestions you don’t know how much it means to me in this very dark time for me.

Not gonna lie, I'm feeling pretty low myself. Living in this country has really broken me. But just like everything, this too shall pass and I'll learn and grow from it. I am in therapy, but it all gets to be too much at times and then you need the support of people around you who get it. You wouldn't be here if you didn't have a partner who cared about you, so I do hope you can lean on them for some extra love and support right now too.

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Hi Greensad, I sympathise with you and hope that you feel better soon. I bet more people care about than you think.