Ms vs. Miss vs. Mrs

This must've been the thread that spawned everyone taking titles... I was gettiing curious!

I've chosen to go with one that doesn't discriminate on gender.

Very PC of you. 

I always just checked the Miss box before I was married. I thought since I was single, that's what I was supposed to do. So I never really thought of it before this thread.  I do like being called Mrs now, even though originally I never wanted to get married.  But since I did get married, I'm happy to let people know. 

I dunno...but what if just I don't? What's if there's no better rationale than that? After all, it is personal information and surely there's nothing strange about wanting to have some measure of control over who knows it and who does not? Even if the reasoning behind it is no more robust than "..just cause."

I was not making judgements but was just interested.  As far as I'm concerned people can call themselves what they like. I don't like being told that I'm old fashioned or that Mrs means that I'm 'owned' but I'm kind of whatever about it.  If people want to think I'm old fashioned that's up to them.  If they want to be called Her Holy Lordship that's up to them too. 

You're right.

But would you take my word for it that this thread has actually been pretty balanced in that respect? Both side gave and received pretty equally?

It has been a pretty fair debate, you're right. And I'm glad it hasn't got ugly like so many threads seem to! Let's keep it going!

This must've been the thread that spawned everyone taking titles... I was gettiing curious!

I've chosen to go with one that doesn't discriminate on gender.

See, I wish I could use a title that indicates gender all the time because I get things addressed to and phone calls for "Mr." all the freaking time! 

See, I wish I could use a title that indicates gender all the time because I get things addressed to and phone calls for "Mr." all the freaking time! 

That's 'cause you have one of those weird foreign names. Weirdo. 

As I think back, I can't remember ever seeing 'Miss' as an option on any forms I've filled out (here in the US - could be a regional thing within the US also).  Granted that a lot of paperwork now has a blank for you to fill in, but that's just my observation.

I deliberately publish under a pseudonym for this reason. Well, that and I didn't particularly want to use my real name.

I mean scientific publications, real names required!

I'm not particularly feminist about it

As a feminist, I'm kinda bugged by that. Feminism is about having choices, not making some particular ones.

I worded that badly. What I meant was that there is often a sort of stigma attached to women who choose to keep their maiden names as if they're doing it to strike a blow for feminism against the patriarchy or something, whereas I'll just be doing it because I'm lazy. I appreciate having the choice, and I too agree that this is what feminism is really about.