Am fed up, miserable, lonely and want to go home - NOW!

It takes about 12 months up to 2 years to settle some where new I lived in Australia spent the first few months missing everyone the next6 loving it and the plane back thinking I wish I could make this my home so give it a chance, make the most of the Job you have it is easier to get the job you want when you are working it shows that you are employable to other companies it shows you are willing to start a job and learn if it is out of your trade, may be the company might be able to offer you something different once you have got used to the job you are doing, I do not know what your degree was in.

Have some dinner parties they do not have to be expensive invite a few friends around and maybe play a game grown up cludeo or something or watch a good movie.

If you love each other and have waited this long don't throw it away now.

You have what myself and Chris and alot of other people want a chance to be together for life and it is what you make of it. Why not invite some family over to visit or friends.

You could maybe met up with people on here they seem very friendly also.

Good luck I hope you work through this.

You've already had lots of advice and I don't know that I can add too much more to what's already been said.

I only wanted to say that I understand how you feel and to let you know that you are not alone in your feelings.  How one adapts to moving away from a life they know to another country, is a very personal thing.  It's different for everybody.  Some people dislike it tremendously and never adjust, some people love it and never look back; most people fall somewhere in the middle just taking time to adapt.  The thing is, even people who do adapt usually have little "blips" and get homesick for one reason or another.  It's only natural.

I lived in England for eight years and bounced back and forth between struggling to cope and liking it.   Much of my unhappiness was largely due to personal circumstances at hand during that particular time.

All I can tell you is that only you know what makes you happy and what's important in life.  Be true to yourself.

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck.

Hey there kwilkins. Another one here who knows how you're feeling. I'm absolutely MISERABLE, depressed, crying all the time. I have a permanent lump in my throat now lol and I feel like bawling at everything.

What's worse, I just came back from a visit home. Now, something you need to know before I go on.. I come from an EXTREMELY tight-knit family. Meaning, you are born into the family, you live forever with ( or nearby ) the family , and you die with the family. None of us have ever really moved away permanently from the family. I am the first one to do so. So it was a shock for us all ( I have a humongous family btw, it's not that I have a lot of siblings, i only have two sisters, but I have too many cousins to count.. think Big Fat Greek Wedding, but even bigger than that  lol and we all consider each other brothers and sisters, that's how close we all are ), but especially me. On top of all this, I reallylove NYC. I feel like I can't ever live away from there, ever. I really thought I was going to die of sorrow the first few months.

My visit was the best EVER. I miss everyone, and everyone missed me, and my huge, crazy, nutty, loving family cheered me up for the two weeks I was there. Even a freakin' week before I had to leave, I was already feeling very upset and nauseous at the thought of leaving them. I nearly cried myself sick just a couple nights ago, the night I returned to Scotland. Right now, I really really feel like I want to be home.

I've been here nearly 1 year now. A bit over 10 months to be exact. And despite feeling so horrible, I am doing my utmost best to make the most of what i've got here. It is a daily struggle of course. I think of my family every other second. When I am here, I am not as happy and confident and outgoing and cheery. I am more timid, withdrawn, less confident. When I'm home, I feel free and I feel I can be myself anytime, anywhere, and that feeling is so great. When I'm here, well, I'm not myself, and I don't think I ever will be!

Being back here is tough, but I know what I have to do. I don't even have a job yet! So I will see if working will make things better. I live with my in-laws, which isn't so great either ( they are nice people btw, but come on you can't live with parents on a long term basis when you're married! ), so I need to look for my own place with hubby. I have a couple of friends I can hang out with ( in fact I'm hanging out iwth them this weekend! ), so all of this may help me. But I know that I can't see myself living here forever, or even for a long time. I just need to make the most out of what's here. I feel like giving up, trust me, I really do, but I need to remember, this was my choice. I came a long way, and gave up everything to be here, the least I can do is make sure that I didn't give everything up for nothing.

Thankfully though, my husband has said he'd reconsider moving to the states because he sees how unhappy I am here ( at first, he wasn't keen on moving there at all, but thankfully he's turned around!! ), plus he sees that it is unfair to not give living in the states a chance since I've done everything for him. Perhaps your husband will see this too. I'm not saying he needs to drop everything right away though, it would be unfair to assume he needs to do that for you right this second. Give it time ( yes that seems very very hard right now, but remember, things aren't permanent! You can turn around and make things better for yourself in the future! ), and patience, and have talks with him about it. Perhaps he can try living there for even just a couple of months or so, if that is possible, some time in the near future. If not, have a 2 to 3 week visit to the states. Have a few visits in fact, throughout the year, so that he can see what it is like in the states. Visits won't be enough to know what it's like to live there, but if living there in the near future isn't an option, well it's the only way in order to make any sort of decision about living in the states.

Whew that was way too long, sorry for that! Sorry if my post seems incoherent and jumbled and disorganized, I'm just so out of it these days ( mentally, emotionally ), but just wanted to tell you you're not alone. YOu can PM me if you really need to talk to someone who is going through what you're going through.

Please hang in there! and keep us posted.

Then u should. It's not (dubya country) and thank goodness it isn't. I moved over here to escape whiny yanks and if you can't adjust then go back home. Sorry to be blunt, but it's called England, not America. You don't like it then there is such a thing as a plane. Hmm and the English keep buying into the stereotypes cause of why?

Then u should. It's not (dubya country) and thank goodness it isn't. I moved over here to escape whiny yanks and if you can't adjust then go back home. Sorry to be blunt, but it's called England, not America. You don't like it then there is such a thing as a plane. Hmm and the English keep buying into the stereotypes cause of why?

Seriously, you are a b*tch.  Take a look in the mirror....YOU are the stereotypical idiotic American.  Why judge her and her personal experience?  You have no right to.  Maybe you have no friends or family in America, but a lot of people here do and have a hard time adjusting to not having them around.  Oh, and as you pointed out, England is NOT America, so it is expected that some people have a rough time at first.

Then u should. It's not (dubya country) and thank goodness it isn't. I moved over here to escape whiny yanks and if you can't adjust then go back home. Sorry to be blunt, but it's called England, not America. You don't like it then there is such a thing as a plane. Hmm and the English keep buying into the stereotypes cause of why?

Charming....

Then u should. It's not (dubya country) and thank goodness it isn't. I moved over here to escape whiny yanks and if you can't adjust then go back home. Sorry to be blunt, but it's called England, not America. You don't like it then there is such a thing as a plane. Hmm and the English keep buying into the stereotypes cause of why?

What an p@#$k!!! 

Then u should. It's not (dubya country) and thank goodness it isn't. I moved over here to escape whiny yanks and if you can't adjust then go back home. Sorry to be blunt, but it's called England, not America. You don't like it then there is such a thing as a plane. Hmm and the English keep buying into the stereotypes cause of why?

wow can you say heartless a**hole? Your comment was a little uncalled for...don't you think? If you don't like hearing about people having a hard time adjusting to moving then get the hell out of this forum. I don't know about anyone else in this forum and how they feel about your comments but in my opinion you are not welcome.     If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all.

(edit: GOD YOU IRRITATE ME THE MORE I READ OVER)
Like someone else said...you are the stereotypical idiotic American. If you wanted to get away from the "whiny yanks" then why join a community that's called UK-Yankee? Also your username says "Brityank"...why does your name have YANK in it if you wanted to escape the "whiny yanks"? Why make it know that you are a "whiny yank"?

 lol...also for your information you are not a British first you are a "yank" so just accept that and stop being a b*tch.

When I read people's posts about not adjusting and being unhappy I don't automatically jump to the conclusion that they are "whiney yanks" who hate England and love the USA. In my case I love most things about England...but the big difference is having FAMILY in the USA and missing them. I can't speak for everyone else who want to go "home" but if something miraculous could happen and my family were transported here I think I would be just as happy here as in the states. In my case, I have older children there...and I married with the understanding that in a few years we would move to the states just for that fact.

If you don't want to "listen" to Americans talk about missing "home" then why do you bother reading these types of threads Brityank? This is a very active forum and with many interesting threads to participate in.

Hang in there all of you that are having a hard time adjusting!

Interestingly enough, if you look through Brityank's few posts -- he is on about meeting other Yanks over here...  What a way to win friends & influence people!

[Global Mod Hat on]

He's had his say, let's not dwell on it.  So, far this has been a really supportive thread and I hope that people have felt better after reading it.  Let's try to keep it that way and not let one person derail it into yet another us v them arguemnt.  OK?  OK.