How did you choose a name?

I am getting so frustrated with Rich!  He shoots down every flippin name I put out there, for no reason.  It's driving me crazy!  I say a name he says no.  Then it's like whatever name he says it has to be it.  Umm, who is carrying this child?  Who is getting bigger everyday?  ME!!!!!  What do I do?  He is not putting any effort into it at all either!  Does not look in the book.  Nothing.  He has given one name which I said fine to, but it's not really.  I feel like moving back to NY and naming the kid what I want!!!  (Yeah, the hormones are starting to rage!!!)

Been there Stacey.......I wanted to name my oldest Alexa or Alexandra........I left instuctions with the nurse if they had to put me under that is what I wanted her named.......my bastard ex husband switched it to Cassandra...not what we had discussed...so that is what she ended up with and has told me should would have preferred the Alexa name...........Grrr

Men.....

I gave the hospital staff strict instructions that I would be the one to complete the birth certificate information form (primarily because my ex can't spell for sh*t!). Of course, I had an advantage because I delivered in the hospital where I was employed. 

Hang in there, Stacey!

I'm sure it must be a hard process.  While we've never named a child, nor do we plan to do it any time soon, we have had the name talk.

His favorite girl name, the one he wanted for a girl child since who-knows-when?  The moment he said it, I shot it down and gave it the old heave-ho.  (It is the name of the "friend" who ran off to Vegas with my would-be-husband years before, and there was no way I would want that name uttered in my home).

Thankfully, we are in sort-of agreement with other names.

All five of my sisters have had name dramas with their husbands.  One refussed to allow his daughter a middle name!  So she's "First Last".  Now that she's in school and realizing everyone else has three names, she's not a happy little camper.  Another had to make a choice: a name she sort of liked, or one she hated.  Since she got to chose the 1st daughter's name, she had no real say over daughter 2.

One sister did this: if it's a boy, hubby chooses the name; a girl, she chooses.

Another chose family names, and another chose names from a random selection.  Hubby said as long as babies have his last name, he was fine with whatever she wanted for first and middle.

Maybe it's worth having a chat about.  Let your husband know how you feel, then maybe you can both pick your top-three boy and girl names.  Then, you can discuss them ... each giving reasons for wanting the names you chose, and then reasons for not wanting others. 

I suggested Grace for our first girl, hubby said no . . . didn't really like it. I suggested Grace for our second girl . . . hubby said no again. I suggested Grace for our third daughter, hubby says yes, that is a beautiful name!

Moral of that story, just keep suggesting the names that you really like, he may just end up saying yes. No granted, it took me three girls to get one of the first names that I choose, but your hubby may jump on board quicker than mine.

I think he's being completely unreasonable.  While you do have plenty of time to figure a name out, I don't think it's fair of him to be so cavalier about dismissing names you like.  Want me to fly over and give him a smack upside the head?

Hey!  You should give birth here in Wisconsin - the mother has to fill out the birth certificate forms, so you'll be sure to get your choice! 

Daniel's father and I never discussed boy names. I just assumed HE wanted a junior, and he just assumed I wanted a junior. When Daniel was about 3 we actually talked about it and realized that we both would have been fine with naming him something else but didn't want to upset the other person! So Daniel he remains. 

We chose Courtney after spitting out random names at each other,and when I said Courtney we both said Yes thats it!. Her middle name Aeryn came from an article I was reading about the tv program Farscape. I loved the spelling of it.

Regarding birth certificates. I'm not sure if this is everywhere but at the hospital they really didn't care too much on us picking a name , they asked if we had choosen a name and they said if we didn't then thats fine. We choosen a name the week I found out I was pregnant lol
we had to go to the registry office for her birth certificate

Oh, I know!  I lost the argument for Phoebe three times.  Well, truthfully, two times because Molly was born after Friends and I thought people would think we'd named her because of that and not Catcher in the Rye.  But still, she would have been Ruby or something else.  And the other two were his choices all the way. 

Stick to your guns, Stacey!

We've been having the name talk a lot lately and we're having the same issues.  We've managed to agree (for the most part) on a boy's name, but we have a hard time with girls' names because I like old-fashioned Southern names (read:  weird grandma names, in his opinion) and he likes more standard names (read: common, boring ones in my opinion).  I think eventually it'll come down to us both making a list and seeing what we have in common, if anything.
Fingers crossed our first baby is a boy!  

Oh, I know!  I lost the argument for Phoebe three times. 

Ah!  Phoebe is the only girlie name we even remotely agree on!   

Thank you all!  I was so upset last night!  I had just asked Rich about yet another name and he shot it down.  I do this all the time, ALL THE TIME!  He just looks at me and laughs a bit as if it's the dumbest name he has ever heard and goes back to ignoring me.  (He is not a talky person, he is also always working)  Last night after I typed out this post I said look, I am trying here!  I need to do this and you are not even participating one bit. I also asked why is it your decision?  Why is what you say goes?  He said it wasn't.  Hmmm, seems that way to me!  I said look, there is a book, right there, humor me and glance through it for a bit.  I went to bed after that.  I think he might have looked at it because the book was on the chair this morning.

Anyway, I am not one to vent much on the board, but it's really been bothering me and I really appreciate all the responces!  

FG, please come here and beat him up for me!

Carly, yep, here too, you have to go to the registry office to register the birth, I think the whole UK is like that.  My nephew didn't have a name for over a week when he was born.  Then they called him Montgomery (Monty for short) then they changed it to Jack six months later!!!!  I guess you can change it for up to a year with no problems.

Mindy, I would love Ruby, but SIL sister took it!  She took most of the names I like and is preggers with her 4th now!

Lola, see the girl is mostly sorted, it's the boy I need, seeing as I have boy feelings.

Oh Stacey, I can relate.  Matt and I have no names we agree on.  It will be so hard to find one that we both like.  I say a name, he just says "NO".  I am about to just figure the name out myself. 

I wanted to name Caitlin.............Dakota.....my ex HATED it...........I told Caitie I wanted to name her that and she can I change my name??? to Dakota.....


But that was when ppl were naming their kids weird western names.............

I had Chance, Beau, Shepard (Shep) Dakota (boy & girl)..my ex wanted Blayne....I was ok with that one....


My son Thomas is named after both Grandfathers middle names.......Thomas DeWight.........

I wanted to name Caitlin.............Dakota.....my ex HATED it...........I told Caitie I wanted to name her that and she can I change my name??? to Dakota.....


But that was when ppl were naming their kids weird western names.............

I had Chance, Beau, Shepard (Shep) Dakota (boy & girl)..my ex wanted Blayne....I was ok with that one....


My son Thomas is named after both Grandfathers middle names.......Thomas DeWight.........

That is too funny!  Dakota was the name I said last night.  I said this to him right after I read the John Lennon thread, as the building I love so much is called the Dakota (He was shot in front of this building where he lived)  I want a name that reminds me of NYC somewhere in the names of my kids

MR, I would do it myself, but he would not be happy with me at all!

How about if you both sit down (separately!) and make lists of names that mean something to you?  Compare the lists to see if you've put down the same name or if one of you has thought of a name that you both really like.

(or just name the child Lola.  Problem solved!)