"average" amount of time apart?

I met Elizabeth on-line in Nov 2004 in Yahoo chat. We talked and got to know each other over the next 2 years. I was on a business trip in August 2006 in Chicago 2006 and drove down to Lewieville (8 hours) thats another funny story. Spent 22 hours together.  I drove back to Chicago, this sealed my feelings for her. I invited her for New Years where we spent 11 full days together in the UK. I am trying to get back to see her for 4th July holidays. We talk on a daily basis on Skype/phone. And most of all I love her dearly.

We are just starting out on this international trip threw life and I can't wait.

I see DB every month.

How in the world do people afford to see each other more than once every month or two, or more? And not get "caught out" at immigration and told they're going in and out too often? 

How in the world do people afford to see each other more than once every month or two, or more? And not get "caught out" at immigration and told they're going in and out too often? 

For DB and I, we are fortunate that we are in a situation where both of us make enough money to pay for 1 ticket a month, so he buys a ticket one month and I buy the next.  I never thought about immigration being a problem, until you mentioned it.  Every time I go, they ask why I am visiting and I tell them I am visiting my boyfriend.  It has never been a problem.  Should it be? 

For DB and I, we are fortunate that we are in a situation where both of us make enough money to pay for 1 ticket a month, so he buys a ticket one month and I buy the next.  I never thought about immigration being a problem, until you mentioned it.  Every time I go, they ask why I am visiting and I tell them I am visiting my boyfriend.  It has never been a problem.  Should it be? 

I just know that people have had trouble at immigration if the IO believes they've been coming into the UK too frequently, or too long, or too long and too frequently.  Someone else may be able to answer it better than I can, though.

I was kind of lucky--we spent 1/04-6/04 together because I was an exchange student as an undergrad. It was then two visits 4 months apart until 8/05 when we were together for a year while I was getting my Master's. Then 4 months until he visited me again, then I went to England two months later . . .and the rest I'm trying to figure out and just posted about, heh.

We saw each other every 6-8 weeks-ish, but when I would go over it was always for anywhere up to 3 months, I was in a business with down times, so I could spent a lot of time with him...it was great.

it was 5 months for the first visit, which i stayed for almost a month and a half

then 6 months after that (LONG time due to money issues) which i was only able to stay for 9 days.

then 2 months, which he will be staying for a month 

So thats averaged at a little over 3 months

I'm not sure I'm posting this in the proper section of the forum.  I know, by reading others' stories, that I'm really going to get hassled for saying this...I went over to visit my partner, overstayed two years (please don't go there, I've already been raked over the coals in another part of the forum), got an administrative removal and was told I had to come back to the US to apply for a fiance visa properly.  I know everyone here loves their partner more than anything in the world and that nobody is better than anybody else, I am just relating my personal experience and sorta wondering about some things too.  Probably none of this makes any difference to anyone, but I'm 52, my partner is 58, we were joined at the hip and never left each other's side except for when he went to work...we never went anyplace without the other, we sat in matching chairs in our computer room and on the sofa in the living room most of the time.  I feel very displaced and feel like I have lost a limb or something too.  I have applied for a fiance visa, which I was told would take 5 to 10 business days in Chicago to process, but I've been hearing on another part of this forum that it might take longer because of the complications.  We've been apart for two weeks now and I know this is very very minor to most of you, but it would help more if I knew what the average wait is for anybody who's had an experience remotely similar to mine.  It's the not knowing that's bothering me almost more than anything.  Please don't be hard on me and I sincerely hope everyone who has to wait to see their loved one will one day be together all the time, because I just can't wrap my head around such separations like I've been hearing. 

For DB and I, we are fortunate that we are in a situation where both of us make enough money to pay for 1 ticket a month, so he buys a ticket one month and I buy the next.  I never thought about immigration being a problem, until you mentioned it.  Every time I go, they ask why I am visiting and I tell them I am visiting my boyfriend.  It has never been a problem.  Should it be? 

I've never had a problem at immigration either. I see my bf every few months, for about two weeks on average, he's also been here to visit me in the U.S. twice also. I'm guessing that immigration has just never given me a hassle because I'm not coming to stay for very long each time I go over.


I've also been lucky enough to find cheap(ish) enough flights over. I always book way in advance (at least two months early) and watch the prices to try and get them when they're at their cheapest.

You're all going to hate me... my partner and I see each other every 3 weeks, sometimes every 2. I have the money to pay for regular flights while we have to be apart.

Immigration is not really the point of this thread but from everything I've heard you must never say that you're visiting a partner. I've been warned against saying that based on the experience of a friend where his girlfriend (now wife) said she was here to visit a partner and was given tonnes of grief. My partner came in from the USA last week and was specifically asked if he was seeing his girlfriend, so he said no quite easily (we're both "boys") but the woman was trying to pick him up on it. He's not been here since March! I get through US immigration but I hate it - the difficulty varies wildly from officer to officer. But I have no plans to move there so I can at least answer very honestly on that score...

I met my husband in August, 2001.  We married in October, 2001.  He had to go back to the UK in November, 2001 because we couldn't find a sponsor for him (still not sure if he legally had to go back).  Between then and now, the shortest we've gone between visits was probably 3-4 months, and the longest was 10 months.  He's been on the 3 month visa waiver twice since 2001.  I am moving to the UK (FINALLY) in a couple of months.  We probably averaged around 6 months between visits.

it was really awesome.. i sent this girl on a volkswagen beetle group from myspace a message about how hot she was and 2 weeks later she had bought plane tickets to see me, the shortest time apart will be one month and the longest was about 4..

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We spent the first year and a half apart, then he would visit me twice a year. Always April/May time and Sept/Oct. The first year he visited in March, then May, then Oct. The next year I visited the UK in Jan and he went to the US in May/Oct. The year before I moved I came over in June and he didn't come over again until Feb to do the Visa before I moved in April.

For the most part it was 6 months in between visits, but we chatted online and spoke on the phone every single day, no matter what. We did that for 4.5 years!!

the longest I was ever apart from my fiance (now husband) was about 6 weeks, right before we got married. I know, 6 weeks, pathetic