Waiting and Wondering...

Well we've finally got round to sending off my partner's proposed civil partnership application. I'm so nervous right now it's unreal. It seems like it's taken forever to get things in order, especially with my Dad mucking around and taking forever to give me the money he owes me (the one thing we've been waiting for to start the app).

The online form was filled in on Wednesday and the documents were sent off last night. All together we sent off:

• His passport
• My passport
• My letter of Support
• Our statement of Intention to marry
• Preliminary Booking for Bath Registry Office
• Our lease agreement with both our names on and receipt for 6 months rent up-front
• My job offer letter, and follow-up confimation of hours letter
• Our next 12-Months Itemised Budget
• 6 Months Bank Statements for my 2 Accounts
• His CV
• 6 Months Bank Statements for his account
• Letter of Support and Financial Backing from his Mum
• 6 Months Bank Statements from his Mum
• 3 support letters from my friends and 1 from his Grandma
• 1-inch think pile of IM conversations
• 6 Months of both of our phone bills (hilighting our calls - now I know where all my money's been going)
• Several online journal entries
• 4 or 5 cards
• Travel Itineraries for our trips to see one another
• Flight Stubs
• Selection of Photos

All ranged in an expanding file, separated into sections covering:-

• Accomodation
• Employment and Income
• Support
• Communication
• Travel

Each section having a covering sheet explaining the enclosed documents and any side-notes we thought relevant to point-out.

Phew!

God, I'm so nervous. It's a really scary thought, to think that someone that doesn't know either of us from Adam, has no idea of our relationship, is going to have the say as to whether we'll be able to see eachother, let alone settle down together.
We both knew this was going to be tough, but bloody hell is this driving me up the wall! We've put so much planning and effort into this and I really don't know what I'd do if he were denied  At the moment I'm trying to resolve myself to the idea that we've got a strong case and that him not getting the visa isn't an option, but I guess up until now, things were in our hands, to some degree or another. At least I've got my work to keep me busy at the moment... though it's not really helping that much 

Fingers crossed! I'm sure it'll be fine. I kept thinking of all the reasons they'd reject my visa (my DH is British and I came over to be with him), but in the end, they were so matter of fact - it was like they thought 'of course, here you go' 

But don't you feel so scrutinised? I hated sending off personal emails and cards to random strangers! (Must be a fun part of the job though!) 

Good luck!!

But don't you feel so scrutinised? I hated sending off personal emails and cards to random strangers! (Must be a fun part of the job though!) 

Yeah, totally!! I faught my partner for ages not wanting to include our chat logs, it just seemed such an invasion of privacy! Heh, the things we'll do for the people we love

Yeah, totally!! I faught my partner for ages not wanting to include our chat logs, it just seemed such an invasion of privacy! Heh, the things we'll do for the people we love

You probably would have been fine without the chats...  It won't hurt...  I printed off a ream of e-mails and when when I applied in person the ECO didn't care.  Because as proposed civil partners you simply have to prove that you have met.  The ECO laughed at me, because he said "a picture would have helped"  I had brought so much other crap I totally forgot that a picture of the two of us together would have proved that we had met.  DUH!

Because as proposed civil partners you simply have to prove that you have met. 

Not really.  You also have to show that you intend to live together in a permanent relationship.  In some cases, if there is doubt...such as a big age difference, prior bad immigration history, not having known each other for very long...periods of absence lasting several months...then evidence that the relationship is real and continuing may be needed, and transcripts of e-mail conversations are good for this.

Probably less relevant for applicants from the US, but often essential for applicants from developing countries.

Vicky

Not really.  You also have to show that you intend to live together in a permanent relationship.  In some cases, if there is doubt...such as a big age difference, prior bad immigration history, not having known each other for very long...periods of absence lasting several months...then evidence that the relationship is real and continuing may be needed, and transcripts of e-mail conversations are good for this.

This is why we've tried to put in as much as we can. We don't want to leave any doubt, and sometimes it can be hard to try and persuade someone who's never, and probably will never meet you that you are a couple and you are very serious.

Good luck!! I submitted a much thinner packet of information for my proposed civil partnership visa application and I just got mine today.

Yeah, totally!! I faught my partner for ages not wanting to include our chat logs, it just seemed such an invasion of privacy! Heh, the things we'll do for the people we love

We didn't fight about it!!!!  Though I will agree that I wasn't keen on the idea either.  I just wanted to make sure that the ECO didn't have any doubt that our relationship is genuine.

lol... and where have you been hiding?? Ok, so maybe faught was a bit of a strong word... but you know what I mean!

Anyway, how do you people deal with all this waiting? It's only been barely a day or so and I just seem to be finding myself walking round in circles around the flat 

Alcohol!

Neither of us drink!

*nods*   Far, far too much nervous energy waiting for a decision from the NY consulate. 

HURRAAAAAAH!!!!!  He just got the e-mail saying he's been approved and his visa is on a fedex van! 

congrats!

You see, all the worrying for nothing!!!!! 

I am glad neither of you did take up the drinking a suggested earlier!!!