Watching the TV bio I kept thinking "Poor first wife. Never appreciated (or even noticed) until she was dead." I wonder how accurate it was?
If that's how they depicted the relationship with his first wife - yeah, from what I know, that was pretty much the case. It's like he cared for her while they were courting, but once they married...

ETA: I do think there were some personality clashes with them, however, because she strongly disapproved of some of his novels' subject matter - thinking them immoral, indecent, etc. After she died, it seemed he then idealised his memories of the marriage. Peculiar fellow!
And it's been argued (rather successfully I would say) - that her death is really what
made him as a poet...IIRC, his novels came earlier in his career. After she died, he turned increasingly to writing poetry and a lot of that written as strange requiems (I can't think of the word I'm trying to think of...<something> kind of verse, but requiem isn't it - that's musical...elegiac verse - that's it!) to his first wife - like love letters to her once she was gone, despite not really treating her well when she was alive. Which,
I think, in turn kind of irritated his second wife - big surprise!
