I watch too many romantic movies!

Chi chi thank you so much for the table of contents I may be pming you in the future when I am trying to get this thing together. I want to make sure I have all my ducks in a row...

I am like you ladies with the lipstick..putting it on and trying to keep it on...usually after about an hour or so it is gone...how do these women keep it on all day and never mess it up...

I spent yesterday trying to contact some photographers and work on my wedding guest list...there is still so much to do...

Tell me if you think this is strange-my gf is getting married in June and she is in my wedding in August and I am in hers. In July I took my bridemaids to David's Bridal and we all picked out the bridesmaids dress they would all wear...it is flattering on all the girls and I really like it. My girlfriend has decided she wants to have the same exact dresses at her wedding...this upset me a little because that is something me and my girls picked out for my wedding...(I am by no means a bridezilla) I just don't understand why she can't pick out a different dress...it is like she made me do all the work and then decided she was just going to have everyone go and by it...Maybe I am just being irrational...that is my vent for today

Carey have you and David made up? Is he still coming over at Easter?

Beth how the heck are you lady?

Everyone else how is it going?

Patty you are getting closer to the big day wooohoooo

Josy, I'd be pissed and definitely let her know it's not acceptable (and why!) That sucks, really!

I'm still sick. I can't really speak and luckily it's midterm day today. It will be nice and quiet in here all day! Woohoo! Of course, by the end of the day I will have 120 midterms to grade. Ugh. That is the one thing I really hate about teaching- grading! Anyway, enough whining. I'm gonna go back to getting some stuff done while they test away! I can't believe it's only 2 1/2 months till I go to London for the summer! That's what I keep focusing on!

Laterz.

Beth I am sorry to hear that  you are feeling sick..I hope you get better soon and thank you letting me know how you would feel...part of me kept thinking maybe I am just being petty about it...but it is just a strange situation

Josy, you are definitely not being petty about it. I would tell her that it really bothers you! Why would she think it's ok to do that? Is she going to hire the same band? The same church? Same reception hall? You deserve to have your day be special. Her doing the same dresses is actually kind of crazy!

well that is why once she said that about the dresses I haven't told her anymore about the wedding...about the flowers on the table..I haven't showed her the wedding rings we bought...I haven't shared anything with her...and that is said because she has been my best friend since 2nd grade...I got engaged in Sept 2007 and then planned my wedding for August of this year...she got engaged last June and all of a sudden had to have her wedding in June of this year...even with little or no time to plan it...I don't know why she had to get married before...but that doesn't really bother me....I wanted the time to plan my wedding to enjoy the engagement and everything...she hasn't had any time to enjoy any of that...

Chi - Thank you a million times over for sharing that.  I am with Beth - your organization warms my heart and I can't wait to colour code my binder    (random confession time: my closet is colour coded...anyone elses?)

One question for any of you or anyone lurking: I started to do a budget for David last night (he lacks our organizational skills, we will say...) and even with my loans/credit card payements thrown in there (which I will still have to pay when I move, so I assume have to be included, right?) we have the 95 pounds per week left over, but when doing a spousal visa budget, are you allowed to include the applicants projected salary if you include some of postings for jobs you would be qualified for?  Ramble ramble... the question is - would a budget include his salary and MY potential salary or just his?

Josy - Yes, we made up and David is still coming in 29 days!  I do not think you are being irrational about the dress.  There are a billion dresses to chose from and as childish as it may seem - you picked it first!  She should respect that.  Its almost like she had to beat you to the punch and now wants to steal your ideas too.. Blech! Not good.

   (random confession time: my closet is colour coded...anyone elses?)

Uh, yes. Of course! And by type, purpose (work/non work), season, long vs. short sleeves, capri vs. pants....

yeah that dress situation would really irk me, especially after hearing your story about how she rushed to have her wedding before yours.  it will end up looking like you copied her dresses, not the other way around!  i'd be livid. 

Well I don't want to add too much fire to the flame, but I agree Josy. It's not very fair of your friend to take your bridemaids dresses that YOU picked out, when her wedding is a month before yours especially! It sounds like she's almost in competition with you. Reminds me of Bride Wars.

Carey, I did my projected budget with the lowest salary for my field and calculated it that way. I figure, because it is a projection, and I do plan on getting a job as soon as possible, that it's fine. I've never read anything otherwise. I don't think they would expect you to live off of savings for 6 months! And I've seen stories of people getting approved with much less than that. So I'm hopful for myself and for all of you . Oh, and Carey, if I had enough clothes or a big enough close to organize by color I would. It's more organized by even and type (coats, short sleave, long sleave, work, t-shirts, etc.)

Patty, I never got why people needed such huge binders either! I mean, mine is full, but I didn't need any more than a 1" binder and 100 page protectors. I did put a lot of the pages back to back, so that may have helped. Maybe they have extensive financial documents to show or something?? I know one thing - I would NOT want to pay to overnight a full 5" binder! I love the idea about the pink binder! Although I went with a neutral white. Didn't want to subconciously affect whomever will be processing my application if they happened not to like something I thought was stylish... you never know! I bet they get all sorts of interesting things there though! That would be fun to see! So maybe they would be greatful for the little bit of entertainment that a pink binder would provide??

Well, biometrics appointment is today. I leave in less than 4 hours, and when I spoke to DH this morning I had not yet received the documents. And it was "why do you need it that fast?".... SERIOUSLY!!! Sometimes I could just kill men! So we're counting down and if I don't have it by 12 I will be pissed. I mean really... he's known for days. I try so hard not to get angry but he likes to push it as far as he can. Drives me crazy!!

I feel your pain, Chi!  I will NEVER EVER understand why men are like that (I think its mostly a man thing...), but I have learned that there is nothing we can do about it except b*tch to eachother, so that is what we do

Did he say he will have the docs to you by noon??

Awesome news about the budget - I'm nerdily excited to put it together now!

Well, he just IMed me and asked me for my work email address the gazillionth time. So I'm hoping that's a good sign. I think he'll pull through last minute.

I had a lot of fun putting together the budget too. I was really proud of my formulations and color coding. I'm such a dork. My husband always tells me he married me so he could have a secretary and I can keep him organized (which he is SO not... just like your David ). haha.

I am with a David too, and feel like I could have written your post! 

Darn those Davids!!   Can't live with 'em, cant live without 'em!

It really does just seem to be a guy thing, doesn't it? (for the majority anyway). My sister's husband is the same way. It gives me some comfort that 99% of the women I talk to go through the same thing!

Darn those Davids!!   Can't live with 'em, cant live without 'em!

hahahaha.

Darn those Davids!!   Can't live with 'em, cant live without 'em!

Sorry to butt in but.....................


I SOOO totally agree!!!