I watch too many romantic movies!

AAAW yo all are great! I hope everyone has a fantastic New year and ends up exactly where they want to be!!! 

Well I got to run....going shopping in Chester with my sister in law for wedding shoes YAY

If pictures are able to be taken if you purchase shoes, I wanna see.

And I'm ordering my dress today.  Going with the short one.  WOO HOO!

Have a good one, ladies!  Hopefully you all don't have to go back to work today.  What's the point of one day? (Since most of you don't work weekends, unlike myself...bah).

Patty- sorry you're back at work. I actually work nearly 7 days a week (when I have tutoring on Sundays). I'm not looking forward to getting back on the work treadmill on Monday.... I took tomorrow off because we're going to VA today to visit my niece! I'm excited to see her!! Yay for ordering the dress!

And Jamie- yay for wedding shoes! Deffo need pics!

Carey- how are you feeling? Back to the routine?

Well, I hope everyone else enjoys their day. I've got several errands to run this morning before I go. Oh, and I think I need to pack! LOL If I'm not going overseas, I tend to put it off till the last minute. Oh well. I'll get it done before I leave! Laterz!

Count me in as one who has to work today... Boo!  I think I am one of only 2 people who are going to show up, so it is sure to be a slow day.  Maybe I'll get a work-out in mid-day!

Good dress choice Patty - I think you will have so much fun in that one!  Ever notice how your choice of clothing changes your mood? 

Still feeling quite down, although I am very glad NYE is over.  It was killing me to not be there with him for that. I slept most of the day yesterday and think I am all recovered re: jet lag. 

I'll echo everyone else good wishes for the New Year.  My sincere hope that everyone's dreams come true this year. 
A quote I came across yesterday: "We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day." - Edith Lovejoy Pierce

Good morning (or afternoon) everyone! I too am back to work.  Soo not in the mood for it, but I'm not so much in the mood for anything right now. Missing DH terribly and I still haven't spoken to him since he left for camping on Monday. NYE was pretty dismal for me. Couldn't even get drunk on my own as I live with my sister and she doesn't like drinking so I ended up watching Stardust (add that one to the sappy movie list!) and going to bed just before midnight. I have a pretty full weekend planned out as my friend has just gotten back in town, so hopefully I don't spend too much money, but I can have a good time and cheer up a bit. Wait until my caffeine kicks in this morning and I might be a little happier. I'm afraid I'm no good as a therapist today ladies, as I'm having a hard time dealing with all of my emotions. But I'll get over it and be back to normal soon enough. Hope everyone enjoyed their New Years and is looking optimistically towards the coming year.

hugs to all!!

On a happy note: I just noticed on your countdown thingie, HAPPY ONE MONTH ANNIVERSARY CHI CHI!

YAYAYAY Just spoke to my hubby!! It's amazing how much those 2 minutes on the phone at my break cheered me up!

On a happy note: I just noticed on your countdown thingie, HAPPY ONE MONTH ANNIVERSARY CHI CHI!

Thank you!

Oi. I'm putting together a little care-box to send to England (full of enough peanut butter M&Ms to feed the entire country and other random goodies).. and need to include a thank you note for the parents.  I am the most picky person when it comes to letters or cards - I HAVE to find the perfect thing to say and my brain is not cooperating today.  I sort of want to write: Dear xxx and xxx, why did you have to raise such a charming, wonderful son?  This would be much easier if he were a bit of a loser and I didnt love him so much. Can you let me in on some horrible secrets that might make me not pine over him so badly?   

Think think think... maybe more coffee will help.... Must make the parents love me...

Hi Ladies....
I am so happy for you Patty ordering your dress...and Jamie you getting wedding shoes...and Chi Chi for getting to talk to her hubby...

Carey I hate to tell you but because you love him you will always pine...but someday you two will be together and you won't have to 

Beth are you going anywhere fun? you said you have to pack....

How is everyone doing? I think you all worry too much and before long you will all be with your men and get married and I believe in happily ever after...


I don't have very good news for my new year I am afraid. I still haven't heard from Jason. I got a generic Happy new Year email he sent to his friends. I have asked him several times to call me so we can at least either work it out or see what needs to be done. I have no reason why he would have been upset with me. But I can't put myself thru this anymore. I have gone with not hearing from him for over a month now. I only heard from him twice ... I got a generic email on Christmas and New Year...I was trying to hold out for the month in case he was busy with work..but I don't think that is the case...I think he couldn't handle the separation and I think he had himself convinced that we were never going to get to be together. I am going to hold off until Monday to see if I hear anything from him. If I don't hear from him by then, I will just have to admit to myself it is over. I can't keep living in Limbo...I love him with all my heart and I know he loves me with all his heart..but the refusal of entry in August and the refusal on the visa hit him hard. He doesn't understand it was just a setback. But I can't keep going on like this...the stress and emotional drain of the whole situation is making me miserable. Maybe he needs some time to think things over. I know how I feel about him...I know that we are meant to be together. But he just needs to believe it as well. So it will be better to part then to keep going on like this. I need to start living my life, not sitting around waiting for it to start....I didn't say this in here to bring everyone down...it is just this thread has helped me thru ups and downs and it helps to share and vent...I will be ok no matter what happens...and I hope that if Jason and I do break up that I can still be part of this thread...cause even though I won't have a British man I will still have an affinity for sappy movies and holiday jumpers 

Josy!! You absolultely should continue on this thread if things don't work out with Jason. I really admire your strength and level-headedness through all of this. If it is indeed that Jason has left you hanging as a way of ending things then you deserve so much more. LDRs are difficult for both sides, but I hope that whatever happens you can move forward optimistically and know that you can be happy and make the best of any situation. I really hope that Jason pulls his thumb out of his a** and at least talks to you about what is going through his head, but only he can make himself do that. Try not to think about it too much over the weekend.

HUGS!!

Josy,  I dont even know what to say except that I am so sorry, and even reading your post made my chest ache, but you are doing the right thing.  You do not deserve to be strung around or to hang on to the hope of something that he has already given up on. He owes it to you to at least tell you if he has moved on, so that you can too.  God, it goes back to The F'ing Holiday again - when Iris sends the text to Jasper when she is on the plane "we both know I need to fall out of love with you. Would be great if you would let me try."  If that is the case, you deserve to know, and just knowing you the short time that I have, I know you will make it though this.
Do you think hes even capable of having that conversation, or is he really as emotionally closed up as I imagine him being?
Have you writen him emails/letters telling him what you just wrote?  
Do you have mutual friends you could ask about what the hell is going on with him??

As always, we are all here to talk, even if you need to have a chat over the phone, please let me know.  

And British boyfriend or not, you are always welcome in this club!

Oh, my Josy bean.....I'm sorry this is going on.  I can't believe you STILL haven't heard from Jason.  Really, why do men have to be so flippin' stubborn sometimes?  I just hope that he wises up and atleast discusses things with you.  Leaving you hanging is definitely NOT the right way to deal with things.  He needs to be a man, suck it up, and talk to you.

But I know no matter what you'll make it through.  And we're here for you!  *HUGE hugs*

Chi Chi and Carey, I'm sorry you're going through the "separation sadness".  We all know how that is.  But whenever you need a good vent, just like we all said to Josy, we're here for ya. 

(And yes, ordered my dress.  Thanks for everything, ladies!)

Goodness, I can't even see straight now I'm so tired.  Hope you ladies in enjoy your weekend.  I've got work, so I'll sort of be around. xx

Josy!! *hugs*

Oh and if y'all let me hang out here, no reason you can't too! I think our credo (ha!) was just about hating Cameron Diaz and wearing Christmas jumpers, right?? Nothing about boys!

BTW, did I tell you all about Christmas eve services at my church?? There were ladies all over wearing the  Christmas sweaters. It was all I could do to not giggle when they greeted me at the door! hehe! I thought of all of us here!

Thank you all so much for letting me stay...and yes Carey you are right it all goes back to The Holiday...I feel just like Kate Winslet right now...I kind of wished I looked like her and had her body too lol..
I agree that this is something he needs to work thru himself...I have sent him a bunch of emails and left voicemails for him...but it appears to me that he has made his choice...but we shall see...I have talked to his sister in law and he has been acting normal and hasn't said anything to anyone...all my friends and his family sent me Christmas cards and stuff...But then I don't understand guys and their emotions...girls are so much better at emotion and showing it and letting it out instead of keeping it bottled up....but no matter what I will get thru this...and I am glad I have a group of friends like you to talk to...and like I have said before if he doesn't wise up and it is really over...once I recover from all this I am going to get a Wii...I think a Wii will be more fun and less stressful then a man ...and then I can become a pro at Rock Band

Beth you are completley right about the credo disliking Cameron Diaz and loving Christmas jumpers...we never said anything about boys )  your post about being in church and all the holiday sweaters cracked me up...

Thank you again ladies for all your support...I just needed to say it all out loud today...and it has helped me alot...you have all helped alot...