In a crisis

The man I moved over here for is escalating in abusiveness. I have been staying in his flat until I could get on my feet, which is proving more full of roadblocks than I'd thought. Now, I hve to get out in a hurry; I'm in danger, things have come to a head. Tonight he started raging at me, hurling abuse and threatening to throw me out immediately.

I am fleeing tomorrow while he's at work; I will not give him the satisfaction of doing the job himself. I am getting a friend with a van to hopefully pick up me, my shipment of boxes (still stacked in the hallway) and my cat that I brought over, and take me to another friend's home. Even my cat is showing signs of stress and fear from the scenes that have taken place here.

This has all gone from bad to worse. The pity is, we were lifelong friends before all this. I knew him for a solid, unbroken thirtythree years yet I've never seen the side of him that is coming out now. He has to be a complete sociopath. My belief now in thinking I know and can trust someone is shattered beyond description.

Please anyone think good thoughts my way or say a prayer, I need all the goodwill floating my way that I can get. I am traumatized by things that took place tonight but I am determined to get away from this man and not allow him to ruin my life and damage me one additional moment more. I've been through some crap in the past but this is beyond the worst, and I truly believed it was all going to be wonderful. This man lovingly encouraged my love and belief in our future for years. I thought I knew him. PLEASE be careful who you trust; he was a lifelong friend from when we were in high school together on throughout our twenties, our thirties, this is man who was part of my life before, during, and after my time living in the US. He was my best friend, yet turned on me and has no conscience, takes no responsibility, nothing.

Please wish me well, I'm scared and I can't stop crying as I'm typing this but I'm getting out.

**HUGS!!**

Please keep us updated and let us know when you're out of there!  If you need a friend to call, I can give you both the house line here and my mobile.

Thank you so very much for being here!!!!

I'm pretty much a mess right now. I'm just hoping the friend I called tonight can make it with his van tomorrow; I'll be up all night quietly gathering things together and packing.

I wish we were closer, I'd come over to help you!   I'm around on all the IM programs (Despite my away message) if you want to chat. 

I know this is hard for you, but you're doing the right thing with leaving! 

Thanks Anna, I appreciate the support and kind words, that's all I need!

 I had hoped to be able to get on my feet before leaving here, and the place I'm going to has some challenges, meaning it won't be ideal for the family involved, but they are worried about me and it's time to get out -- this man is just, well, I've already said it all.

I'm glad!

Challenges can always be delt with, and I'm sure it will be better for you and your cat, too.

Keep us updated!

Thanks Anna, I will. This has been a nightmare; at least it's going to be over.

Sorry to hear about your situation and I hope things work out okay... fingers crossed for you!

Thank you vnicepeeps, hugs.

I do not mean to freak you out further but please be very, very careful tonight. The most dangerous time for a woman who is being abused is when she is leaving. Be vigilant and protect yourself. Please post after you've moved and are in a better place. I wish you the best. You will be in my thoughts.

I do not mean to freak you out further but please be very, very careful tonight. The most dangerous time for a woman who is being abused is when she is leaving. Be vigilant and protect yourself. Please post after you've moved and are in a better place. I wish you the best. You will be in my thoughts.

Liz, thank you so very, very much for this reminder -- instead of freak me out it comes as a really really good piece of advice and one I hadn't thought of tonight -- a million thank you's to you. I am laying low all night in the living room and gathering my things together as quietly as I can. He actively wants me out but I still do not want any confrontations that can still come up....

Later on tonight I will be removing my hard drive that had been housed in his computer as a secondary, and wiping this computer's history. When I can get back online, hopefully tomorrow at my friend's place, I'm hoping I can find my way back here and post that I'm okay.

I just pray I can get away smoothly tomorrow. God this is a nightmare. But I'm doing the right thing I know....

Please take care and let us know when you are safe.

*hugs* Midnight Blue. Prayers for your safe exit coming your way. I second those who say, let someone know as soon as you can that you are safe.

Midnight blue, I have just said a prayer for you and continue to send you wishes of speed, safety and piece of mind.

Hope to hear from you soon when you are at your friend's house.  You're in my thoughts...