I just spit shine our dishes to remove any soap or food debris. Works every time! 
We just let the cat lick them clean
Since I am likely not to eat off your plates, even if it were true, it wouldn't phase me. I am not saying one habit is disgusting or not, more defending the practice of using washing-up bowls. Because of the perception that they are dirty compared to using a rag, soap, and running water, it's hard to find bowls in shops as demand goes down, and people are wasting resources.
As far as rinsing, I've tasted soapy drinks and I like to avoid that note in my drinks and food. Soap might also cause diarrhoea. How? The soap kills the good gut flora, encouraging yeast growth. Sort of like what happens if you leave soap in a moist bit on your skin without rinsing. It might not happen to you, but I hardly call rinsing dishes being paranoid and being overly clean. Again, I don't really care if you or anyone else rinses their dishes as long as I am not eating off them. I don't find it disgusting in particular; it's just not what I do.
Personally, I think there is a bit of tendency to be snobby about cleaning in general, especially among intellectual people. It is seen as such a trivial thing to focus their energy on. With women, it's sometimes a feminist stance, a reaction to the expectation in days of yore that women could show their worth with a clean house, both back when they weren't working outside the home and the years since it became the norm to have a two income household with the woman "balancing it all". While I used to hate it and find it degrading, I've sort of found it to be a fact of life. I've also found it to be the very much something that encourages clear thought both in the centring nature of cleaning, and the way a clean and orderly house encourages a better thought process.
TL/DR: Damn right I am house proud. It doesn't make me a dullard though, and I could care less what you do in your own home.