Inconvenient Annoyances

The little boy is feeling poorly. 

People who take up more than one seat on a standoing-room-only train.

People who take up more than one seat on a standoing-room-only train.

I would definitely say something to them (or at least the conductor). It should be obvious to them to move their stuff, but for some people it's not, so you should ask them to move it so you can have a seat. I used to feel shy about doing it, but I paid for a seat, their bag didn't!

STUFF! I hate consumerism, I really do.  I have just done a major purge in the girls' room and I'm about to start in on the attic here in a minute.  Getting ready for a major neighborhood yard sale, and it's not for weeks, but I know this is my big chance to be ruthless and get ready for the move.

Every single thing which I've moved 5 times already and not used: GONE. All baby clothes which aren't *precious*: GONE. Half our dishes: GONE.  I'm SO done.

Every minute I spend shoveling crap from one room to another is a minute I'm not spending with my precious kids.

STUFF! I hate consumerism, I really do.  I have just done a major purge in the girls' room and I'm about to start in on the attic here in a minute.  Getting ready for a major neighborhood yard sale, and it's not for weeks, but I know this is my big chance to be ruthless and get ready for the move.

Every single thing which I've moved 5 times already and not used: GONE. All baby clothes which aren't *precious*: GONE. Half our dishes: GONE.  I'm SO done.

Every minute I spend shoveling crap from one room to another is a minute I'm not spending with my precious kids.

I am with you 100%! 

I also find it therapeutic to downsize stuff.

My IA is should be revising but shoulder pain has radiated into neck, so instead I am going to go for a lie down. So unlike me, as I *hate* resting unless it is bedtime or I am seriously ill.

I also find it therapeutic to downsize stuff.

My IA is should be revising but shoulder pain has radiated into neck, so instead I am going to go for a lie down. So unlike me, as I *hate* resting unless it is bedtime or I am seriously ill.

Yep,  me too.  It's my go-to technique when I get overwhelmed to a breaking point.  Put on Netflix for the kids [which is a treat because they normally don't watch TV] and dig into my attic, closets, and cupboards.  I read a blog post called 'the 40 hanger closet' and it's all about only keeping what you LOVE.  I'm all in. My goal is to have all of our clothes in the closet, even off season, so I'm purging enough to make that happen.  Hubs and I share, and the kids share.  Closets aren't big, should have similar space in the UK, so this is my challenge! Also, the more high quality things we purge, the more we can sell them for.  Probably going to consign some of the nicer things.

Sorry you aren't feeling well.  Sometimes rest really does the trick, though.

Trying to convince my boss that if I work 4 days at 9 1/2 hours each, I will not go over 40 hours a week. He just doesn't seem to get it. The best I can seem to get is 3 days one week, 4 the next because he is afraid I will go over on hours.

My husband never topped up his phone today like I asked him to, so I can't reach him. 

Maybe 'worse than an IA'?

Two of my nieces (sisters) are currently fighting. One is pregnant, and the other's fiancé can't have children. Instead of acknowledging she is hurting because she wants a baby, she is attacking any flaw she finds in the other's boyfriend. The other sister, twin of the one who is pregnant, is trying to play neutral peacemaker, but the one who is upset and angry seems to think everything being said is negative toward her. It is a huge mess, and it true modern fashion, it is all being done publicly on Facebook. The twins are 20 and the other one is 22, so despite my desire to step in and give one of my aunt Tam talks, I am trying to keep quiet and remember they are adults even if they aren't acting like it.

What makes it all worse is they have always been so close. Ever since the oldest started dating her fiance they have been nit picking at each other about little things. It never happened with previous boyfriends. He is hard to love (by the rest of the family) and she is changing since meeting him. Nothing horrible, but she is changing, and not for the better.

Last night was my high school reunion (which could be considered and IA in itself). I didn't have one drop of alcohol (just water with lemon), while DH had 7 pints, yet I'm the one who woke up feeling completely hung over with a massive headache. We were outside on a deck and people were smoking around me, so I'm not sure if the smoke is what gave me the headache or what. Thinking about it, I'm not sure when was the last time I was around that much smoke. It was disgusting.

After almost a year of looking for a job I had to turn down a 30k job in my field in a senior position because it is up in Scotland. This was last week. I just want to call them back and take the job if it's still open. But I know DH doesn't want to move up there it would take him away from all his friends here. But even if it was only for a year we'd be better off I think and none of this stress. How long can you really live away from your UK spouse before it's troublesome to applying for ILR?

If you move for work purposes and have proof of continuing contact, it doesn't affect ILR at all. I would totally go for it! Your husband can visit you and see how he feels about it after a short while, and that kind of salary would set you guys up for a major improvement in your situation!

StealthG, I agree with DrSuperL99!! Go for it - Scotland is lovely! I don't understand why your husband wouldn't want to do just about anything to get out of the situation you both are currently stuck in & it sounds a great opportunity. He could always go back to visit friends or Skype, plus there would be new friends to meet & make, and I'm sure there are carer jobs in Scotland (isn't that what your husband does?). This could be the fresh start you both need!! 

Oh yeah, I agree too StealthG -  you NEED to get out of your situation and this sounds really good!  Good luck if it's something you want to pursue!