Coping with the LDR

To cope, we'd use our webcameras every single day. We also would use yahoo voice ( to cut down on call costs. Voice chat.. godsend! ). It really did help a lot, because although we were apart, we still had a connection every single day. We went about 7 or 8 months without seeing each other. But thank goodness for the internet!! 

Good luck and congrats on the upcoming marriage!

. We were known to be on webcam while typing to each other while talking on the phone..all at the same time lol...gawd we were sad! now I'm lucky if he can hold a conversation with me when hes home from work 

. We were known to be on webcam while typing to each other while talking on the phone..all at the same time lol...gawd we were sad! now I'm lucky if he can hold a conversation with me when hes home from work 

Hehe, we do that (but we use our microphones instead of the regular phone.) It helps, though.  LDR's suck- boo.  No matter how this one turns out, I'm never doing this again 

Hi everyone,

Thanks for all the info.
Since talking to him about what I'm going through, he has started to take some of the burden from me and went into Manhattan to the marriage bureau to find out information from them.
The only ID i will need to marry him is a valid passport, well, if im in the states, i guess i have a valid passport or i wouldnt be travelling  lol
Then after 24 hrs of the license being issued, we have to wait a full 24 hrs before we can get married.
Then what we have to do is turn up at Manhattans office and its a first come, first serve basis for the ceremony.
So, the earlier we get there, the better, and hopefully not much waiting around.

We will be having a blessing of our vows when we are back in the UK so its then that i get to wear the big dress i already have and the party.

Hi Jane,

My Dave and I got married in Vegas too! Where are you getting married?   I just wanted to just suggest something, you may have already thought of it.   If you're on a tight schedule and you need to get your marriage certificate immediately, make arrangements with your chapel to bring the certificate immediately down to the courthouse.   I only say this because I'm not sure they're held to bringing it down the same day and I know that some chapels I had contacted were not willing to bring it down to the courthouse immediately.

As far as making an LDR work,  even though now that I have lived in England for over 3 years,  my husband and I still have a bit of LDR in a way as he's in the Navy and is often out of reach. I've found the best way to keep my mind of missing him or being lonely is to keep myself so busy that I don't have time to dwell on the fact that I'm missing him.   Probably a different scenario but it's what I did to keep my mind off of it when I was back home and he was at home here.

Good Luck with everything!

Maureen

Hi everyone,

Thanks for even more advice   

Just a few snags with some of the idea's.
Dave doesnt have internet access unless he visits a Library 

Maureen,  We decided to go for the whole NYC wedding. My Dave went into the Manhattan Marriage Bureau and we found out that the license can be issued within an hour but we have to wait a full 24 hrs before we can get married.
 I hate this waiting game, I always knew there was a reason i didnt like games   lol

The problem that Liz and I have is that sinceshe works in a call centre in the US, she doesn't exactly want to spend her evening on the phone as well. This is where Skype has come in really handy, since it's chatting, voicechat and webcam all-in-one. We can talk about how our days went, chat about random rubbish, flirt, and act all romantic. We tease each other, and generally behave as we would when we are together in person (only without the cuddles, of course *pouts*). It's no substitute for actually being able to curl up with Liz and chat all evening, but it does make the distance a little more bearable.
We also email each other every day; I have a "Liz" folder in my Yahoo inbox that contains over 1300 emails since September

the bares bones truth is that they suck. they really do. but, as long as you keep in mind that it's a temporary separation, you can get through it. that's how we're looking at it.

also, the whole being totally and completely in love helps. 

the bares bones truth is that they suck. they really do. but, as long as you keep in mind that it's a temporary separation, you can get through it. that's how we're looking at it.

also, the whole being totally and completely in love helps. 

DITTO!

Well,  Dave hasnt bought his ticket yet, but we now have a date   

Hes going to be aiming for March 6th but wont get to england till the 8th as hes flying into Ireland first and spending a day there. He will fly in on the morning of 7th and then over to the mainland on the 8th,     
so just 1 month and 5 days till hes here with me again.
YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

Shayde is planning on visiting in March too! We are trying to get her over here for a few days (possibly a week) in early March, to visit the registry office and look at flats. She is going to take the majority of the paperwork we need for the Visa back with her too (she can take my passport back with her, rather, than me having to post it, which would be quite a worry off my mind). Plus, I get to see my angel for a while!

Skype is the best!!!
I wish we'd had it when we were doing our long distance thing!

Sorry guys, but you wont be seeing me in this forum anymore.
As of 1.30 am on the 5th february, i am a single woman again.
Dave has decided that I am not worth starting over again in a different country for.
He has shitcanned me.

I hope everybody here gets what they desire and I wish you all the very best of luck from the bottom of my heart.

Goodbye and Good Luck to you all

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I'm so sorry to hear that Jane *hugs*

The only cure for missing one another is being together...sadly enough. I've tried alot of things and NOTHING works except for when we are together that's when I'm at my happiest.

I totally feel you on the frustration and missing the boyfriend or in your case fiance. Just hold steady and keep at it...don't give up because it will be worth it in the end for you. All the arguing and upset and missing one another will be over the SECOND you are in his arms...so don't give up hope and keep pushing forward.

Good luck 


Nevermind...I'm so sorry to hear that sad news. 

  I'm sorry to hear that, Jane.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do in the future.