I can't decide if my future MIL likes me or not.
Last year on my birthday I didn't get a card/text/email or anything. I had carefully sent them cards/gifts on their (FMIL and FSIL) birthdays. However, BF's grandfather had died about a week before, so I decided to just let it go/not be upset. I didn't do anything for their birthdays this year.
For Christmas I got a visa gift card. Not to any particular store. Just a giftcard that said visa. Not very personal, but it was nice, I could use it. I was happy and excited to get it. Turns on BF's mom realized at the last second that she didn't have a gift for me. She had originally given BF the giftcard and took it from him to give to me. She told him she was going to get him another one, but never did.
BF's mom and her now husband (who is a total jerk) got married on BF's birthday last year. However, they were planning on not telling BF until after the fact. The night before, he heard the news from someone else and called and asked his mom what was going on. She knew he didn't like the guy she is marrying and "was eventually going to tell him" There are 365 days in the year and they HAD to get married on BF's birthday?!?!?
I am allergic to smoke. I have asthma. Being around people smoking, even if I use my inhaler, makes me sick. BF's mom's husband smokes non stop. When they "come to visit BF" they are really going to casinos about an hour away. I went once and was sick for days after. I refuse to go again. I can't go visit at their house because he smokes in the house. BF's mom takes it personally as in I don't want to get to know them/spend time. Her husband thinks asthma is made up/all in my head. She has back pain and doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything else.
I have made it very clear to BF that any future children will NOT be around the smoke. He agrees, but I can see drama in my future.
The last two times BF's mom "came to visit" at the casinos, she spent less than an hour with BF, then went up to her room to sleep. This was after BF drove an hour to spend time with her. He claims he's not going next time they come, but we'll see.