Not to sound mean, but if my mother sent me any religious books she knows I would round-file them immediately. By no means Geeta am I suggesting you do that. The church thing sounds a better idea.
WebJ - that really sucks to be excluded. Did your dh notice? Did he say anything to her? I would because exclusion, to me, is a form of bullying and just down right despicable. Even more so within a family unit. And wtf is she doing hitting your child? I would absolutely go ballistic if anyone laid a finger on my child. I could possibly just possibly tolerate the shouting dependant on the words, the attitude and the situation. But hitting? No way. Besides I thought that was illegal to smack a child in England?
HEY CHILD GET DOWN OFF THAT CHAIR BEFORE YOU BREAK YOUR NECK!! ok if I wasn't there to do it or didn't see it.
SHUT UP AND EAT YOUR DINNER OR ELSE!!! ok now you've stepped over the line.
Smack! NOW EAT YOUR BEANS! sorry my gun is drawn and cocked. I don't do that and nor would I expect anyone else to hit my child.
We can still skelp the weans up here, though I can't say I know of anyone who does.