Yeah. My grandmother died alone at about 11pm one night, in a hospital. All she wanted was to be at home, but the family insisted she stay. Nobody stuck around after visiting hours, even though she was sinking. It was not a good death, alone, for her. I was 1,000 miles away at the time and am still angry at myself for not flying there and taking her home. Or at least being by her bedside at the end - the nurses said she was talking up to a couple of hours prior to the end. (I could have been there, it was not a contagious illness.) But I was in serious denial that she was leaving, and thought there was more time. I bitterly regret my decision every time I remember it.
I've been told that when they have to put you on a ventilator, they "put you out" so you don't fight it. You may or may not wake up again. If it was me, and I knew that I had virtually no chance, I'd rather be at home at the end. With the Daughter. Not alone stuffed full of tubes.
Sorry, Debbie Downer here.
Someone please take this thread back to the positives?
