The shower thing goes like this:MiL wakes up at 5.45am, every weekday morning and has her shower. FiL goes down stairs and makes us some coffees. When MiL's done in the shower, she knocks on the door, to make sure that DH is awake, and then goes to their room. DH shaves from about 6:16 until 6:30. DH then goes to take his shower at 6:30, MiL and FiL both go down stairs. On her way downstairs, MiL asks DH thru the door what cereal he'd like putting out. I sleep in until 7am(if I'm not working). At 7am, she'll yell up the stairs that it's 7am, I'll get dressed, and go downstairs with our coffee cups. Then, DH will have his cereal, while we all watch bbc breakfast news. She'll tell him that she's recorded the weather for him, and he'll watch it. Then, he leaves at 7:45am. Then, I'll eat after that, and have my shower at 8am. The routine doesn't get broken, unless I have to work early in the morning. Which, tomorrow, I will. That means I'll have to wake up first, and have the first shower, and just do everything first. Which, normally, wouldn't put anyone off.
But, if I don't make sure to remind MiL, there will be hell to pay. I'm not even joking. She gets in a right mood, and then her blood pressure will go up, and then she'll myther about that(the blood pressure going up) as well. For some reason, she LOVES to play the victim/martyr. DH has said that she's always like this,but, for me, I don't understand it. I mean, if I'm willingly do things for other people, I don't complain about doing them. Just get on with it and do what needs to be done, and then move on to the next thing. But, if she does something for you, which you think, "Oh, how sweet. Thanks." there's no certainty of whether she did it for you to be nice to you, or she did it expecting something. I've said this bit before in other posts, but, she'll go on and on about the doctors saying that she should take things easy, and how she gets so tired doing everything in the house. But, DH and I have asked her
countless times if we could help in any way, and we've always been denied.
And the cooking thing, he's mentioned it to her, but, she thinks it's her responsibility as DH's mum to cook him a hot meal and all of that. It's like what Legs Akimbo said in her post.
I was raised to never "talk back" to my elders; if I was ever to say anything to my dad even now, I'd certainly get a stern look that would put me in my place. So, I don't say anything at all, just try to carry on as best as I can. DH is the only one that I can be myself around, when we're in our bedroom, or our lounge, so, that's a comfort. And I do try to go out as much as I can, when and where possible. I just hate the feeling that I have to do all of this, just to feel comfortable in my own skin.
And the 2 year thing, that's mainly because I want to go back to school next year, so that I can get better qualifications and earn more money. Catch 22-grr! DH only makes about £21,000-not anymore than that, and I barely make £10,000 now. We can only get £45,000 for a mortgage so, we wouldn't be able to afford anything decent in Crewe, where we live. I don't even mind living in Crewe, I just want a space of our own, where we can be ourselves, where we can feel like we're not little kids, depending on his parents for everything.
Super long post! Sorry. Got to go into town. Thanks for always listening!!!! <3