So many things I want to vent about, but I won't. Really, the big vent is the ridiculous time it's taking for my spousal visa to be approved. I want to be able to work and help contribute money so we can move out of my inlaws house!!
I'm tired of my passive aggressive FIL and his daily games, yelling, slamming doors, stealing our food, being drunk, attention seeking and taking advantage of my husband's good nature. He's retired and home all day so every day is a real joy.
My husband is getting a stipend from his father for doing carework at home for his mum. When FIL gets mad about something instead of communicating he just reacts. One time he cut off the automated pay to DH. It was cut off for a month one time because when we were suppose to pay rent, DH's bank was slow transferring money over to his dad's account. (Took 2 days
) Instead of inquiring...boom cuts off payment then we got to pay the nexts month rent one month early. FIL kept saying he'd reinstate the automated work payments... said that week after week. It was just stressful.
It was basically to punish us. It makes me wonder if UKBA not seeing those payments FIL withheld will hurt our app since we must show income.
I have stayed up in my DH and I's room since beginning of August and I don't leave it except to use the bathroom or bathe or very rarely go outside with hubby to go for a walk. (But if we do FIL must not be anywhere on the way to the door out or I have a panic attack) Sounds a bit dramatic, I know. But I can't help how I react around him. One time when trying to talk to my FIL about some issues DH and I had months ago he blew up, yelled at us, said disrespectful things to me and put his hand on me (not sure if he was going to try to push me down the stairs or what, but I got free from his grasp.) We were told if we ever had any complaints we would not be welcome there and to leave. I've not talked or seen him since. Before this incident he caused me a lot of stress anyway (I would take valerian root drops to deal with anxiety of being in the same room with him) and I'm not sure why, its some vibe from him. 'He's a charmer to people who don't live here and seeks lots of attention, but to people who live here, he's a nightmare. Shouts at his disabled wife etc. I love my DH a lot,he does intervene while he can, he too is tired of his father's BS but until this app is approved we are stuck here and can't change our situation much. I just wish it would hurry and be processed faster so we can get out of dodge!!
Thank you for letting me vent.