OK- need to get this out before this weekend
Our baby is almost 8 weeks old. The ILs have made ZERO effort to come see her.
DH is the only boy- his family name will die out with him if we don't produce an 'heir'. Before she was born, FIL "joked" he wouldn't care to meet the baby unless it was a boy.It doesn't look like much of a joke now.
They do not feel a 45min car ride is worth the effort, rather we should take a too-young-to-have-vaccinations newborn on a 2 hour journey on public transport.
They did manage to visit a friend in Surrey though, and we would have been a 30min detour (Still not worth the effort).
They don't call or skype to see or hear about her (though my 8yo niece does everyday while at their house and they can't bother to come to the computer, unless it is to ask my husband for help about finances, etc).
The only reason they are meeting her is because our friends are getting married in their town this weekend.
We were planning on moving back to the States in Sept or Oct and before she was born they gave my DH sh*t about raising our baby away from them. Now we are moving back the first week of August so they will probably only see her once before we leave. I am 100% positive they will use this against DH in the future (they are very 'woe is me').
My MIL has been sh*t talking my DH to other family members saying that she is not going to visit us in the States because she deserves a 'real' holiday (so hard working 3 hours 1 day a week!) but we better come back for 2 weeks at Xmas because that's what we did visiting my family while we lived here.
Um, lady, that's because we actually ENJOY spending time with my family and they don't give us the silent treatment for imagined slights. Oh, and not to mention we had 4 weeks holiday in the UK with no baby, things are different now.
Plus last year at xmas MIL hid in her room and had a screaming fit because my 7 yo niece got a present from a family member that MIL was mad at for whatever reason and it was UNFAIR that a 7 year old child would want to open a gift on xmas
. Like hell I want to spend my child's first christmas with a woman in her mid-50's having a temper tantrum.
And I just feel so bad for my husband because he is ecstatic about being a father and just loves showing her off, and he can't do that with his own parents. He deserves to have had parents who are supportive and loving. The best my ILs can manage is indifferent.
I have nothing to do with my ILs, generally. DH calls them bi-weekly and they might call him if they need something from him but that is it. But now that LO is here and DH wants to introduce her to them, I have to be there as well. No way am I leaving her around verbally abusive, narcissistic, hoarding assholes. DH tends to try to ignore it (like he had to do his whole childhood) so I need to be there to say "time to go!" when they start acting up. Even a 2 month old doesn't deserve to be around that.
So yeah, just need a vent to get it out before I expose my postpartum, hormonal self to them. I am just 2 weeks from my citizenship ceremony so it would be a bit inconvenient to be arrested for choking a b*tch this weekend.
(PS- is justifiable homicide legal in the UK?
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